I’ve never understood our societies obsession with when men lose their virginity. You see it in media all the time like in ‘The 42 year Old Virgin’ and ‘Last American Virgin’. It seems to be a bigger thing with men then women. Can any men here confirm?
Why does it matter when someone loses their virginity? If you ask me it’s no one’s business to when someone loses their v-card. People should lose it when they feel comfortable to. I hate our societies insistence that men lose it before the age of 18. Like if your an adult virgin our society sees it as a personal failing that makes you a loser. I never understood it myself. It’s frankly ridiculous.
It was a big deal in high school. In the adult world, no one cares.
Totally this. No one cares. The few people who do care as adults typically have lots of interpersonal problems
The thing is that for most men, it’s not voluntary when they don’t ‘lose their v-card’ for a long time, it’s that they can’t find a partner. Someone who never managed to find a partner despite trying typically doesn’t exactly feel like a winner, so they tend to at least somewhat agree with the popular sentiment that older virgins are ‘losers’.
It’s true that this isn’t really other people’s business, especially not if they’re only using it to put people down instead of trying to improve things. Though this is certainly an issue on a societal level.
As much as some people hate to admit it, women have all of the (legal) power when determining when men lose their virginity (hetero relationship implied). In some ways it makes sense since women have to handle the risks and full burden of child birth.
In most civilized cultures it is expected that the men court the women. This puts men with social anxieties at a severe disadvantage.
Our society views sex in general in a terrible way. The importance put on it is insane and leads to a ton of contradictory pressures being put on people.
While that’s true, as much as I don’t care when somebody loses their virginity, if someone has not lost their virginity by a reasonable age, I start to assume they are either overly religious, or socially stunted in some way.
It’s not so much the virginity as not having had an opportunity nor wanting to. There are obviously exceptions, like ace people or those with a history of abuse etc. Like other posters said, it’s more high schoolm thing to care about the age in years. I’m more thinking in decades.
in the usa, its pretty much from porn, or movies and shows, and being repressed by puritanical beleifs.
I mean, if you really wanna be a wizard it matters.
No sex until 40 if you want to have magic. Thems the rules.
Shit, I still hate that I lost my wizard potential when that harlot (my friend’s sister) stole my precious seed (consensually had sex with me).
Demon
40? Don’t quote the old magic to me, not-wizard. I was there when it was written… and can probably dig out the year 2007 or so meme to prove it!
laughs in 40 year old
As someone who lost their virginity aged 28 I understand a lot of what you’re talking about.
