“I like you but I don’t think I can deal with this anymore. I really don’t like talking to people and I can’t commit. I’m sorry. I’m not going to break up with you, I just don’t like talking. I like you, but you wear me out.”

But then he still says he loves me and that I’m the only one for him and that no one can take me away from him? i don’t get it?

he hurts me all the time, it’s like the song tainted love says “Sometimes I feel I’ve got to

Run away I’ve got to

Get away

From the pain you drive into the heart of me

The love we share

Seems to go nowhere

And I’ve lost my light

For I toss and turn, I can’t sleep at night” and “i love you though you hurt me so”

  • funkless_eck@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    1 day ago

    He’s not ready for whatever you have and a relationship is about how two people live their lives together and whatever that looks like for them.

    What it looks like for him - at least right now - is different to whatever situation has been happening.

    If it doesn’t change he will continue to be in this state, for at least a couple of years, if I know people.

    Now if it’s a change into something you’re immediately comfortable with - great - you guys want to change along the same lines into what suits you both better.

    But if it’s a change you don’t want to make - you’re both not in the same place.

    No one who doesn’t know you intimately can tell you if those are changes that will be good or bad, or worth sticking through - that’s up to you - but he has been really very clear about what he wants and needs here, and it’s up to you to decide if it’s worth it or not.

    There’s a world where you stick through it and it comes up roses, there’s a world where you find someone who is exactly in the right place for you and it works out better. the opposite of both worlds is also possible