I asked if my bf still had feelings for me and he answered with “sure lol”.
he has been pretty dry lately but says he doesn’t know why. just earlier i talked to him but he gave short responses, though he may be busy idk.
“how are you?”
“Busy.”
“oh ok, whatcha doing?”
“Was busy. Nothing.”
“are you available to talk?”
“Ok.”
“what’s wrong, you seem pretty dry.”
“Nothing.”
“I like you but I don’t think I can deal with this anymore. I really don’t like talking to people and I can’t commit. I’m sorry. I’m not going to break up with you, I just don’t like talking.”
It’s 2
“i like you, but you wear me out.”
We do all wear out even our favorite people, occasionally.
I have adapted in a couple ways;
I like to think I tone myself down when appropriate, for them.
But I don’t ever let anyone tell me how to be. But I do like express myself in a way that makes my favorite person more comfortabe - particularly when they are feeling drained.
As long as I’m able to be my natural self most of the time, it works for me.
Sometimes even people who adore me need a break from me. I’ve learned to be okay with that.
A few people I liked have needed a “the rest of our lives” break from me. That’s okay, too. Their loss.
Most people want to hang out with me again sooner than that.
Unexpected bonus: I discovered that being comfortable being alone also made me more attractive to other people.
I gave myself space to become a comfortable happy loner. Then I grew into a leader when people started to ask to join in my hobbies or to go to events with me.
I should clarify here that I didn’t start a cult, or anything. I started a computer club, and I organize meet-ups to watch movies I like.
It sounds like a roundabout way of saying he wants out. “I don’t wanna hurt you by breaking up with you but I want out.” Also, saying you wear him out means he’s calling you exhausting.