my bf alex (21m) always expects me (22m) to watch his movies, and his videos. and i do, and i watch all the tiktoks and instagram reels he sends me. but when i send him something, he doesn’t look at it and says “he’ll do it later” but doesn’t.
he also doesn’t like my interests at all and doesn’t want to do things with me, but wants me to do his interests like playing fortnite. i do not like fortnite at all.
I had the opposite thing happen. I dated a girl who was cute and fun and quirky. But as time went on, she took more and more interest in my stuff. I thought it was cool, that she wanted to spend time with me and share interests, but as time went on it started feeling creepy. She started becoming me. Hanging out with my girl friends without me, started having inside jokes with my guy friends, like when have you spent enough time with them to get that close? (she was cool with me having friends of the opposite sex, if she wasn’t, we never would have dated)
Eventually It got weirder, I don’t have enough time to type it all up at the moment as I’m about to head into work, but the point is that you either both need to be equal takers and sharers of interests, or accept that you’re different people with different interests and just like the person and not their interests. When it’s one sided, someone’s soul is getting consumed by the other. If anyone wants more of the story, I’ll see if I can add more detail throughout the night.