• Colalextrast@lemmy.world
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    8 hours ago

    Using the word “refused” assigns negative intent to the kid. And maybe the kid did refuse(“I don’t like those toys”), but I find that unlikely it they started playing with them at daycare. Maybe there are toys at home they prefer. Maybe, as others have stated, its more of an environment thing. Most kids, even when they start to be conversational, lack the vocabulary to fully express themselves. They learn to say what they don’t like earlier than saying what they do like, and will often use black/white terminology even when the feeling is more nuanced.

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    Setting makes a difference. At daycare, he has other kids to play with and different stuff to drive the trucks over.

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      So what you are saying is that he doesn’t like toys, he likes friends? I can’t say I am familiar enough with the concept to provide any meaningful commentary.

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        Or he literally wasn’t sure how to play with them without an example. I liked construction/farming toys as a kid because I knew how they worked from personal experience. A kid who never saw a truck before wouldn’t have anything to emulate, but another kid showing them…

        A parent might even present the toy and try to play, but not know how to show it in a way that the kid picks up on.

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      he could also see how much fun the other kids are having with the trucks and decided to try playing with them after all

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    This is a bit of a self jab. The kid didn’t want to play with the toy, he wanted to play with you.

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        As a parent unless you’re wildly abusive your kid absolutely wants to play with you and spend so much time with you, especially very young kids. Most parents barely talk to their kids much less play with them