For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i’m just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
For me, driving. Its not that driving is difficult or i’m just not able to drive. Its that there are just too many awful drivers and pedestrians you have to care about on the road.
I’ve worked in a few hospitals, and honestly, I wouldn’t want to be taken care of in any of the places I’ve worked. I’ve seen enough to know that. It’s funny—every nurse and doctor I meet says the same thing about the hospitals they’re in. It’s like a weird, unspoken truth in healthcare: we all agree it’s not ideal. So, in the end, maybe it’s better not to be in a hospital at all if you can help it.
It goes deeper than that though. The more I think about life in general, the more I realize it’s all a bit of a show. We’re all just putting on a facade. You see people who are supposed to be experts—whether it’s contractors, doctors, or even people you look up to personally—and then you see what they actually do behind the scenes. It’s basic, at best. I mean, I had “experts” drywalling for me recently, and what they did was laughable. These people were getting paid for this!
Same with my dad. Growing up, I thought he was this master of all trades—could do anything from building stuff in the yard to fixing things around the house. Now? I look at some of the things he’s done and realize it’s all just… okay. Not bad, but not perfect. And I think he knew that too, but we both kind of lived under the illusion that he was this all-knowing guy who could do everything.
It’s not that he’s bad at it, but perfection is something you rarely find unless you do it yourself. And if you’re like me, maybe you can’t even do it yourself. So, no matter what you do, you’re always left with something that’s just good enough.
I’ve seen million-dollar homes—didn’t buy one cause I’m not rich—but even those fancy places have problems behind the walls. No matter how much money they throw at things, it doesn’t make the work any better. The people doing the job don’t care as much as they should, because they know they’re getting paid no matter what. And the inspectors? They don’t care either. They’re just looking to check boxes, not actually do a good job.
It’s frustrating because this isn’t just about contractors or hospitals. It’s everything—in every job, in every aspect of life. People just don’t care. Even the so-called “experts” are often just figuring it out as they go, doing the bare minimum to get by. And honestly, I’m no different. I’m just getting by too, month after month, like most adults pretending they know what they’re doing.
It’s like, once you realize this, everything feels a little less magical. Perfection is out of reach. People aren’t who you think they are. And if you want something done right, you either need to do it yourself or accept that it’s never going to be perfect.
Very well said and agreed completely. Work health care in retirement homes. Before that was kitchen in similar places.
The shit I saw cooking literallly broke any food pickiness I had. You can do A LOT to food and still serve it.
You mentioning construction, the amount of shit we’ve found in a new construction multi million dollar property… Like things left in the wall and pipes. It’s the same everywhere.
While I totally agree with the magic deflated feeling, it is also liberating (albeit terrifying) to realize we are all faking it til we make it.
There’s a lot of truth in your observations. As a physician who has worked at multiple hospitals over the years I would love to share my own perspective on what you’ve said about healthcare.
Basically it’s mostly true with a few notable exceptions. Many of the hospitals I’ve worked at did not leave me feeling warm and fuzzy and I would not want to be a patient there.
There are exceptions however. The most notable would be pediatric hospitals. Every pediatric hospital I’ve worked at has left me feeling in awe of the level of care that is consistently provided. As far as my respect of other specialties goes, it’s hard for anyone to top pediatrics. The people who choose to become pediatric healthcare providers are just on another level. They are usually highly intelligent, compassionate, and patient. Things you would hope for from all physicians but the pediatric folks almost always deliver.
I also want to say that I do not have those negative feelings about the university hospital system where I did my residency training. Nowhere is perfect and I saw mistakes made but the overall level of care I saw in my years there was very much on par with what I hoped to see when I went into medicine.
But since then I’ve worked at multiple private practice and religious hospitals and yeah…. There’s a lot of room for improvement in a few of those places.