• UnculturedSwine@lemmy.world
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      2 years ago

      I realize you’re making a funny but I wanted to point out just in case anyone took this comment seriously, this is not how any of this works. Being positive about your child’s accomplishments doesn’t spoil them. It’s setting them up for false expectations that does it.

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          2 years ago

          I don’t think you’ve got it here bub. All effort does deserve praise. If your kid tried their best in an audition and is a tree and they continue to try despite it not being what they want either, then you praise them for trying so hard to be an awesome tree.

          If your kid isn’t trying, you aren’t praising effort anyway.

          Maybe there’s 5 kids that excel at drama in their 1st grade class. Who knows why. But if they tried and are a tree, so be it.

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          2 years ago

          Wow, if you have kids, I hope you don’t treat them that way. You’ll be setting them up with the false expectation that their best isn’t good enough.

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      2 years ago

      Every day more and more child development research shows that one of the worst things we can do to our children is discourage them when it comes to participation. Even in jest these sentiments only perpetuate harmful childrearing.