That may very well be true but that’s a very analytic way of handling things and one that will probably make social interactions quite unpleasant and stressful. I think you can be a good listener and an interesting conversation partner without effectively becoming a people pleaser. It’s just more sustainable long term.
I interact with people that way, and find this very pleasant : trying to guess what subject they will be happy to talk about is a fun game, makes people happy, and is interesting most of the time. And from my experience, most people end up doing the same thing with you, and offer you some time to talk.
Now as you wisely said, we are a lot of different people with a lot of different way, so you’re right defending that there’s no ‘superior’ way, but there definitely is a way where being a people pleaser is pleasant :D
That may very well be true but that’s a very analytic way of handling things and one that will probably make social interactions quite unpleasant and stressful. I think you can be a good listener and an interesting conversation partner without effectively becoming a people pleaser. It’s just more sustainable long term.
I interact with people that way, and find this very pleasant : trying to guess what subject they will be happy to talk about is a fun game, makes people happy, and is interesting most of the time. And from my experience, most people end up doing the same thing with you, and offer you some time to talk.
Now as you wisely said, we are a lot of different people with a lot of different way, so you’re right defending that there’s no ‘superior’ way, but there definitely is a way where being a people pleaser is pleasant :D