Partner’s first day went well! He likes to call me on his breaks and for the first time, he was ecstatic and elated to have a job at this charity he’s at now! I’m so proud of him 😭
I also got a call today from a cattery I applied to a few weeks ago, and I have an interview with them tomorrow. The commute would be amazing (literally less than 10min walk from my place), so I could be there quicksmart, which I hope they see as a point to my application. Fingers crossed this is my break in the industry I need 🤞🏼🤞🏼
Either way, it will be another learning experience, all I can do is learn and grow!
Good luck for your interview! Proximity always helps, make sure you play that one up in the interview.
Sounds like everything’s turning up Milhouse for you
eee! this is great :)
🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻for you mate! Also 🎉 for your bloke!
Sounds like great news.
Everything is working out!
Fuck yeah!!!
good news 😊 You both deserve this so much
This was a welcome gift.
That’s so cute!!
very nice 🙂
Val Kilmer died.
We knew it was coming, but all the same this is a sad thing.Ah, I was out of the loop. Loved him in Top Secret, 11yo me thought it was the funniest thing ever. RIP man.
His deteriorating health was big news when the second Top Gun movie came out and we found out he couldn’t actually speak any more.
NOOOO 😭😭😭
He played my favourite character in Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang
Tbh I love him in everything he’s done!
Vale Val
Such an underrated film. Everyone in it is great.
So sad.
You’ll always be remembered Iceman.
I liked his role in The Salton Sea.
he was so young too 😔
Got annoyed today, someone constantly needing things from me, even when they can see I’m working out of my office about to do some other work.
My stupid first reaction and instinct is to stop what I’m doing and cater for someone else.
I need to stop myself from doing that and tell them to come back later and I’m busy because they’re too self centred to think and see that someone else is busy and only wants their thing done.
I’m the same, I go into doing the new thing mode
the thing is, i get told/implication , is that their thing is both urgent and important , so the feeling of urgency gets me every time.
anyone with an ounce of self awareness would never want you to drop what you are doing
I wonder if the habit of people expecting messages returned near instantly has bled into other aspects of life
So much info to absorb. Brain is mush.
I have also been issued the standard IT place branded polo shirt.
It’s not very flattering.
Time for that pizza that I bought with the 50 I found in my jacket lol
Hell yeaaaah get dat pizza!
Sorry more kid stuff:
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We were having SUCH a good run with bed time lately. But the last week has been rough and the last 2 nights hes been inconsolable screaming for +2 hours. Full temper tantrum. He doesn’t wanna be held, doesn’t wanna get out of the cot, only thing that sort of settles him is wiggles videos but obviously were not encouraging that right before bed. I know “everything is just a phase” and that its likely a new development milestone coming in, but jesus I’m over this one!
He doesn’t want to miss out on the party all parents have when kids go to bed.
When I was a kid I’d resist bed time because I didn’t really feel safe that far away from my family. Once my parents went to bed that end of the house was safe, but when they were still up my bedroom felt very isolated. And the same thing happened in the morning - my sister and I would usually bring our clothes to the lounge room to get changed rather than be alone in our rooms.
If it is something like that he might be able to sleep closer to you and then move (or be moved) when you all go to bed? Or maybe if you have baby monitor you could set that back up so he feels more secure?
his room is just off the kitchen/lounge. he can deffo hear us walking around and cleaning up and stuff.
story time
It’s hard, for sure. I experimented with lots of stuff. There was an aquarium DVD with soft dreamy classical music that was mesmerising, and I used to play it before bed. It went for about 45 minutes and came to signal “bedtime” when it was over. They loved that until it stopped working and I never found a replacement :( I found a bath before bed was a no go, as they seemed refreshed and revitalised by it and were actually harder to get to settle. I also experimented with lavender oil spray (not the aerosol one, it doesn’t smell nice) on the soft furnishings in the room or the straight oil on a cloth hanging near the bed, and lavender scented baby massage lotions administered via soothing back rub. I had night lights which cast patterns of slowly circling stars and moons or rippling water patterns on the roof. All of these things worked to varying degrees. Elder turned out to be a “rain noises and mood lighting” kinda guy. In the end Miniest was having none of it. Nothing but my presence would put her to sleep. I’d put her in her bed and go to mine, only to wake up later and find she’d snuck in during the night and fallen asleep with her foot touching my leg so she’d know I was there. Sometimes I’d carry her sleeping form back to her bed a few times, only to find each time she’d woken up and snuck back lol. It was destroying both our sleep so in the end I just gave up and allowed it. It’s so hard sometimes, finding their little bedtime thing. No advice to offer really but boy do I hear you! I hope you find your Tiniest’s bedtime something and your sanity and sleep doesn’t suffer!
We’ve been doing things to wear the boys out before bed. We have a beanbag we get them to run into, let them jump on the bed singing ‘Monkeys on the bed’ then do these muscle massages and books.
They don’t need to do all of those before bed now and they’re falling asleep a lot easier
Beeeeeeach
That feels a bit like an optical illusion, cool!
thank you guys 🙂
it reminds me of a fingerprint
Excellent photo!
I have gone to the beach, visited Cranbourne Botanic Gardens and bought a car, and it’s still only 2pm!
The gardens were very nice, but it was getting a bit hot in the full sun. Now I need to sort out some photos.
Moon+Jupiter pretty
I haven’t gone to the beach yet to see stars, I hope it will be nice. Can’t be as bad as all the light pollution I saw in the inner city.
I’ve had 3 smokes today. These patches make me a little sleepy but I’ll suck that up. So far, so good 👍
you can do this 💐
Health bit of a downer
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Just went over to p’s help them get ready for their little trip up to the murray.
Bit of a dark chat with mum when we were alone. She’s on a shitload of drops and drugs to prevent total blindness amongst other things. Said she’s sick of it doesn’t want to be here anymore. Just an hour before heading on a trip with her buds.
It’s a bit difficult to know how to go about that conversation.
She has the best care available but it’s pushing her to the limit.
Not after hugs, just saying (as I’m sure a few of us here already know), it can be a bit confronting even if you’re used to that conversation with others.
Sometimes all you can do is listen
thank you for reading.
Sometimes all you can do is listen
Yes, sometimes that’s all you can do. And it matters - matters a lot. She needed you to be there to hear her. It hurts to be there but keep listening. Feels.
Yeah that’s a really hard one. Not sure I have handled it well when faced with it myself. But listening is the best. It’s a natural feeling and being open to hearing it means that you can better judge how to help based on whether it’s a passing feeling, depression kicking in, or a genuine desire.
And then come here or to some other safe space and scream and kick and let out your own fears. You are doing good.
I’m so sorry. I’ve been in that place myself and sometimes all you can do is be there.
Accessibility options might help return a sense of control and help her take her mind off things but it’s really hard to be in that position and hopelessness does kick in.
I don’t know how to feel about posters on reddit who don’t know how to feel.
I do feel a bit stabby, but other than stabby I don’t know how to feel.
I probably hate them just a little bit less than I feel about reaction posts. Go make your own fucking content.
So it seems I hate them too.
This is just like reading a Jane Austin novel where a character, probably Emma, calls people indescribable then spends a few pages describing them.
I 100% agree.
I couldn’t give a flying fuck that you can’t decide on what is, most of the time, a very obvious and popular position.
Your faux contrarian position is incredibly transparent. You aren’t special because you have a quarter of a braincell.
You’ve hit on one of my pet peeves. Attention seeking behaviour.
it just bothers me
maybe it’s a personal preference for me
I put a lot of effort in communicating plainly and simply and honestly and I feel like all the games people play are a waste of time and sad
I completely understand what you mean. To me, those games are the seeking of attention.
It’s childish.
Any particular subreddits that tick you off?
Going ‘shopping’ in the vacant offices downstairs. Have acquired several potential new chairs and a flash candy bowl.
nice
One of the earliest set pumpkins is looking bigger and a few are yellowing… please hurry 🙏❄️💀
Realistically I know the cold is probably going to kill them and I might not get any ripe. The Jack Be Little are frost tender (oh no both kinds are) and the Golden Nuggets haven’t even started female flowers yet.
But I’m treating this as a practice run so I learn more about their needs and hopefully can be more prepared in Spring. Hopefully these at least develop enough to get some nice pics before they’re consigned to the compost.
This is the plumpkin from a few angles
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that looks great 🙂
Thanks. I hope next time I can get lots of fruit
I think I just bought a car 😬
Step 1 - check wallet. If empty, then yes you have bought the car.
Step 2 - check wallet. If full, then you may not have bought the car.
Step 3 - check wallet. If half empty, did you buy anything else?
The wallet’s always empty! The bank account at this stage is slightly dented, which means I paid a deposit, but have not yet completed buying the car.
Edit: And now the bank balance is gone too. I guess I bought a car!
Eeeee, how exciting!! What did you get?!
This is her:
Plenty of room for activities in the back of that. No, I’m not talking that. Camping! Chuck an airmatress in the back and your laughing.
A mattress in the back and a bit of cooking equipment will make for a very decent simple setup. A few mesh curtains for insect control and a roll out awning on a roof rack would make for a good fancier setup, and for ultimate luxe an airconditioner for a small space like that will probably be within reach too. I’ll probably add a bit at a time over a number of years - starting point will probably be sound deadening and insulation for the walls and roof.
That’s awesome, super handy and reliable! May you and your new car have many fun adventures together!
I have joined the Volkswagon club (which means I will fit in with my family again). It actually not a car, it is a van. A Caddy, which means I have lots of space to carry things, am not paying for extra seats I don’t use, but it is not much bigger than my car was so is easy for parking etc. It also gives me a future project to fit out as a micro camper.
My FIL had one of those! Very useful and handy. They could comfortably fit all luggage in when travelling. My FIL could fit his golf related items in there plus mobility device and still leave room for shopping. We borrowed it when moving in.
They have a version with a removable row of seats in the back that would be great for a lot of people too - I think there’s even a 7 seater model, but I haven’t seen one actually for sale here. There are a ton of different configurations - I’ve seen a few turned into refrigerated delivery vans too!
If you’re not too tall it’ll make a great micro camper. If you can fit one of these down one side they make for a quick conversion for a solo camper: https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/387469263215. Storage underneath, makes for a bench seat, easy to pull out to either pack down or sleep under the stars.
I sort of have one of those already - I loaned it to my sister, who has had it so long I’ve told her it;s become hers due to adverse possession laws.
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