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  • I think some people mistakenly think that being in a city means you have to go out a ton because there’s all these cool bars, museums, etc.

    But to me, I think of it more like, it’s nice that if I want to do one of those things it doesn’t require much effort, but I still only do it if I want to

    Scenarios:

    • You want to drink a lot and have an energetic night - One of the coolest things about cities is how close and accessible bars are. This makes it super easy to meet up with your friends and pregame a ton. Then you can walk over to a bar or club already hammered, and you only have to buy one or two drinks to keep it going.
    • You want a cozy night - Then just get together with friends at one of your places and play board games or watch a movie or something. Now, if every single one of your friends has a really small apartment, then I understand this might be less comfortable. Maybe the apartment building has a common space?
    • Daytime events - Parks, community events, festivals, etc. There’s usually a few free events every day, check your local news





  • Fighting depression is hard as fuck. Every muscle and bone in your body will tell you to give up, it’s too hard, it’s not worth it, etc. But it’s definitely worth it. Good luck.

    Set aside time for reflection (what goals are working and what aren’t), and celebrate the fuck out of even the slightest win. Cleaned your room? That’s fantastic. Don’t hold off on being proud of yourself until you’ve completely turned your life around. You have to truly convince yourself that each small step along the way is really a huge victory. Then, start getting addicted to those wins. It’ll work out eventually.








  • weastie@lemmy.worldtoRelationship Advice@lemmy.worldWhat do I do?
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    4 months ago

    You’re right that this might look like BPD, but that’s also a huge conclusion to draw from only a couple sentences. It’s extremely rare to diagnose BPD before age 18 because it has too much overlap with just… the nature of moody teens and puberty.

    OP, it might be useful to research BPD but moreso than anything, just give her time and make sure she knows you’re there if she needs you. Give her reassurance and try asking her about why she thinks people hate her, and maybe try working through it with her (try bringing logic into it, but try to get her to come up with the logic rather than telling her directly).





  • Well, there is partial truth to this. Diagnosing especially preteens with mental health conditions almost always needs an asterisk, their brains are still heavily developing.

    Remember that we know of no reliable genetic / physiological markers for ADHD, so when doctors diagnose it, they’re really just saying that the amount of symptoms seems to be severe enough. Some kids are just naturally more energetic, intelligent, etc. and may appear like they have ADHD, but when they develop into adults that might not actually be the case.

    If anything, it’s more like 1/3 of kids were misdiagnosed as having ADHD, so they “grew” out of it because they didn’t really have it. It’s a lot less likely for an adult to be misdiagnosed because their brains aren’t changing.




  • I can totally imagine that book being really boring to some people. I almost didn’t include the actual book series in this post but I thought people would be curious.

    I think for people who are big readers, reading books that they only kinda enjoy isn’t a big deal for them. They might even just appreciate that it’s different.

    But for folks who don’t read much and are trying to get into it, chugging through a book they only partially like might ruin their entire vision of what reading should be.






  • If you feel like you’re struggling to accomplish a task, take a moment to think about your stimulation level. Are you understimulated or overstimulated? Sometimes just acknowledging it is enough, everyone has their own techniques.

    For example, if I’m trying to work and I’m understimulated, I might throw on some metal music or something like that. If I’m overstimulated, probably means I should sit in a dark room for 5 or 10 minutes until I feel better before trying to do anything.