

I’m in a similar kind of situation, early thirties, still living with parents. Without going into a bunch of personal detail, I will say for various reasons it has been difficult over the years to have done differently. Given the forum we’re on, I feel compelled to point out the larger context of a thing like this. I live in the US, for example, and given how many people are struggling, how bad rent is, how much of “people don’t want to work”, yet “we won’t give them jobs to work at, much less ones that pay a fair wage, so maybe we’re a little full of shit”… in that context, it shouldn’t be surprising that someone like me is a thing. I could view it as a source of shame and have plenty of times over the years, but is that being fair to me?
If I were actively refusing to take responsibility for things, refusing to contribute anything where I can, or generally being a combative problem for those I live with, at that point, I’d say yeah, go ahead and judge. But I’m not like that and you probably aren’t either, and I don’t know which country you live in, but if it’s anything like the US, it is a shameful system. I still remember all the stuff about evictions that was going on during the height of covid. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the stories I’ve read about homeless encampments being bulldozed. The capitalist treatment is brutal and the people who do “succeed” in the stereotypical sense of stable job and family are often struggling even within their “success”, whether because of finances or relationships issues or health problems.
So there is how people perceive you, or potentially perceive you, and then there is who you actually are, in context. And sometimes the people who are judging you are not in any position to judge in the first place. There are liberals and conservatives alike who would no doubt judge me for my political views, but I have strong conviction about them and so they can shove it. I don’t have “conviction” about my housing and finances situation and would rather it be different, so it’s easy to feel insecure about it, but that’s the difference, is how vulnerable I feel and how inclined I am already to be down on myself about it, not that others are suddenly more qualified to judge me about it compared to my political views.
One of the first things I always consider with a law, or potential law, is “how hard is this to enforce and what would be likely to occur in order to enforce it?” I learned it from abortion laws because it’s important for swaying people who are morally opposed to abortion, but can still see that laws against abortion directly harm women’s health overall.
With driving under the influence, my understanding is one method is setting up checkpoints. Considering how deadly serious the consequences of drunk driving can be for everyone on the road, this seems fair, provided there’s no racial profiling or the like going on.
Some of the rest of it I assume can be caught with cameras, like at certain stop signs. However, might be tricky depending on the kind of road and how it tends to be, and whether the offense is considered to be not stopping at all or also slowing and continuing. To be clear, I think in 99% of cases, the safe thing to do is always to stop completely as you are supposed to. There can be edge cases where there is no traffic anyway and the design of the road is such that slowing down a lot gives you plenty of time to check. I don’t condone driving based on what you personally think will be safe, but the point is that it edges onto difference of letter of the law vs. preventing harm and if this is enforced purely on letter of the law without any consideration of harm done or lack of harm done, that can be a problem.
The using your phone, I’m not sure how they’d catch that. Maybe with certain cameras? I don’t know. It is probably about on par with drunk driving in terms of danger to everyone on the road, but it may be hard to enforce unless someone gets in an accident and there is evidence they were on their phone.
I don’t want to go through all of them, but those are some thoughts. Another thing to consider is, what is the enforcement like, historically, where you live. Is there a history of racial profiling, for example? Or of poor people being targeted? Is that where these anarchists are coming from?
The other thing about poor vs. not, is not so much about who is targeted and whether it’s legit as it is, what the penalty means for them. A poor person loses a lot more from a fine, they lose a lot more if they lose their main means of getting around. A rich person can just take the fine and (if they are losing their license too) hire someone to drive them around. In this context, the road is arguably safer either way, if the offense was a danger to others, but the end result is class stratified. The rich person will not be much inconvenienced by it, but the poor person’s life could be made significantly worse by it.