Public transit absolutely could work in America, but we would need to change how we design our cities as well as how we live. Many Americans live in sprawling suburbs where public transit is just not realistic. In places that are densely populated public transit does exist and functions well. The issue is that we build sprawling cities with massive suburbs filled with single family dwellings each with their own yard and space. We do the same thing with stores by having hugely sprawling shopping areas (most of which is separated by massive parking lots). It’s a chicken and egg problem. You won’t convince people to give up cars until they can realistically walk or use public transit to get where they need to go efficiently, but you also can’t make things efficient and compact while there is a huge demand for car storage. And beyond that, I think culturally most Americans don’t want to live in densely populated areas. Americans culturally put a high value on personal space and that extends to dwellings. Sure there are definitely people who want to live in an urban center, but the “American dream” is a house with a white picket fence and a dog, and until culturally the desire for that changes, America will be a car-centric society as a whole.

I think the assumption that you will be alone if you don’t have kids is completely false. I have a very cohesive friend group composed of both people with and without kids, and the youngest person in the group is 30 - most of us are in our 40s with a few early 50s. We just make a point of spending time together and fostering these friendships. We have various annual gatherings throughout the year hosted by different people and we get together at least once a week in person and hang out, play games, chat and laugh and just have fun. We like to say that our group is the family we chose.

Friendships don’t just magically exist - you have to be an active participant and it takes real effort, but that’s any relationship. Sometimes you have to go do things with/for friends even if you don’t want to. If you want lasting meaningful friendships, you have to put in the effort.

After thinking about this a bit and reading through this thread, I realized I might have a problem about always wanting spare things. I have more than one of a lot of things - lip balm, battery banks, phone & watch charging docks, dogs, headphones and earbuds (even two of the same kind), computers, pillows (I have spares of my main and body pillows), and the list goes on. I apparently need to re-evaluate my habits.

Everywhere I sit for long periods I have a lip balm. I hate feeling like my lips are dry, makes me nutty

I have a few different wireless earbuds for different uses and devices, and like 5 sets of headphones because they all have different sounds/uses as well. I definitely understand this ridiculous!

A hobby is just something someone does in their free time for pleasure, so yeah, watching TV would certainly qualify. I suppose masturbating could too but I would argue that falls closer to a physiological desire rather than a hobby. Hobbies can be just about anything - bird watching, walking, caring for a pet, reading, playing sudoku, etc. Playing video games has been shown to be good for mental acuity and hand eye coordination, so I would argue it’s even good for you! Hobbies don’t need to be an investment of time at all, they just need to bring you pleasure. We as humans need relaxation and decompression time, and that’s exactly what a hobby is. Sure some hobbies produce things or results of some kind, but they don’t have to.

I really don’t understand the hate for the magic mouse cursor lol. I freakin love it!

It may depend on the LG TV or maybe it’s a setting. I just bought a new one and have a Google streamer on it and use it’s remote to turn on the streamer, soundbar and TV with a single button. I never see the LG UI itself unless I need to change a setting, and I’ve disabled it’s wifi entirely. I don’t get any kind of popups from the TV, it just works cleanly with the streamer.

That’s not really true. B&H sells digital signage displays to consumers and you can buy some of them from Amazon and Best buy as well

A 32" TV is not what most people are looking for. In fact I don’t know anyone with a main TV that small these days. The problem is that 40"+ dumb TVs are hard to find. I’m not saying they don’t exist, but very few manufacturers are making them, and the few that are have garbage screens in them.

Unfortunately it’s getting hard to find dumb TVs. The only real options are pro-AV or digital signage displays but even a lot of those are now moving to being smart. Our 15 year old bedroom TV finally died last month and we ended up having to replace it, and we ultimately went with an LG. I’ve disabled it’s wifi though. It’s a frustrating situation. I wish one of the manufacturers with good displays would just offer a dumb line of TVs. I imagine they would still have a market even if they were higher cost to make up for the lack of ad revenue, but maybe I’m underestimating that revenue. Either way, avoiding smart TVs is getting extremely difficult these days.

My major hobby is like this mostly. Backpacking. Upfront cost for gear, but once you have it the only real recurring cost is food and gas to get to a spot. Sure sometimes you have to replace gear, but if you take care of it you can go for years with no gear costs except maybe shoes.

I will never understand letting your pets dictate wakeup hours, except in the special circumstance that it’s a puppy because they can’t hold their bladder. My cats have never woken me up for food. In fact my cats and dogs have always known that if they annoy me, I will stay in bed longer out of spite. I will wake up and lay in bed until I am ready to get up, and no pet is going to annoy me into feeding them. The closest I’ve ever had to a pet waking me up is my current golden who doesn’t wake me up for food, he wakes me up to cuddle, but is fine if I go back to sleep.

It’s not about what you feed them or when, it’s about setting boundaries. We feed canned food morning and night. Our pets sleep on the bed, and know they will get their food when I’m ready to be awake.

And the award for most depressing comment of the day goes to Jhex. Ugh. I hate how accurate that statement is.

Just tossing this out here as a PSA, dogs can still get kennel cough even after being vaccinated. It’s like the flu vaccine in humans - sometimes the strain that goes around isn’t the one vaccinated for. I had two dogs end up with it and both were fully current on all vaccines. They got it from daycare where an outbreak occurred and our older dog brought it home to the puppy. All dogs there are required to show proof of current vaccines to go so it was just an unfortunate year for the vaccine. Fortunately my dogs got over it with meds and rest for a couple of weeks. Sorry about your sisters dog, that’s heartbreaking.

I have very much adopted and invested in smart technology and even I am massively annoyed by the fact that EVERYTHING connects to WiFi these days. My dishwasher can supposedly download new wash cycles or some nonsense. It’s obnoxious and it will never know wifi. I just like being able to automate things and make my life easier in simple ways. When I dismiss my alarm in the morning my kitchen lights turn on because the first thing I do is go feed the pets. It helps light up the house a bit during winter when I wake up and I love it. THAT is what smart home technology should be. Not a freakin toaster connecting to WiFi so it can alert you when your toast is done.

On the topic of smart toothbrushes, I did get given one to test out and it was actually pretty cool. After you finished brushing it would send a map of your mouth and what you brushed in case you missed any spots. The app ended up being a bit buggy so I got rid of it, but I could see how that type of thing could be useful, especially for certain demographics like kids. They had a way to gamify brushing your teeth for kids as well, which is silly, but could also be effective especially for autistic kids.

My giant beanbag chair. It’s ridiculous and takes up an excess amount of space in my office, but it’s so comfy. I’ve wanted one for more than a decade and husband kept telling me no because he doesn’t like how they look and didn’t want one in the common spaces. But then I started working from home and converted our spare bedroom into my office and that was my chance. I took it! My dog mostly sleeps in it while I work, but I love flopping into it during long boring work calls too. It’s completely impractical, but it brings me joy.

I spent two years in college studying the history of the Middle East and specifically the conflict between Israel and Palestine. I have never been on TikTok. Then where the fuck did my pro-Palestine views come from? I know the history very well and Israel has been unreasonable assholes from the beginning. Yes, Hamas and Palestine need to stop leading with violence, but when you’re fighting for your country’s literal existence it’s a bit of a moral grey area. The whole situation is a shit show and it infuriates me that Israel has so much support from the US. Without the 800lb gorilla backing them I feel like they’d have been forced to negotiate a reasonable solution long ago. Instead, here we are with a wildly disproportionate response that is 2 years long and the US has effectively cheered them on.

Hilary and her entire generation of politicians can get fucked.

Lifelong Kansan and same. No idea wtf a Frito chili pie is but nobody I know eats it and you’d probably be scorned for bringing it instead of Apple or Pumpkin.

My personal answer is because my audio/sound setup is obnoxiously complicated and I’ve tried to get a variation of it working on my steam deck but never managed it. I’m sure there are ways to do it, but on windows I know how it works and how to fix it if some update breaks it. If I switched it would require a lot more fussing around and special software that may or may not continue being supported and I just don’t want to deal with it.