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Cake day: November 3rd, 2023

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  • The way i interpreted the syllabus based on the example questions is that they wanted them to react to the article with how they “feel” about the topic and how it relates to them, and why. To me a passing response would follow the structure of “I feel this is/is not important for study because of x,y,z” supporting their stance, but their response was “I think/believe x,y,z, therefor we shouldn’t study the topic.”

    One is a supported opinion that can be openly discussed and debated.

    The other is an unsubstantiated conclusion (belief) being used justify a hard decision on a topic, closing off any open discussion or debate, which is not the goal of the assignment.





  • Ive been in and out of college since 2014 and my most recent attempt, specifically one programming course, was the final straw that made me throw my hands up and say fuck it ill teach myself.

    On top of paying out of state tuition, i had to pay fees that were meant to support the online learning platform the school used to deliver virtual courses. No biggie, every school ive attended has the same fees. However, this one programming course was integrated with pearson and not just for a few assignments, but for literally everything. Every module, assignment, quiz, etc. was a hyperlink to pearson. My teacher was doing 0 teaching and grading, I was still expected to pay fees for the schools learning platform that was nothing but hyperlinks to pearson, and then on top of all of that i was expected to pay an extra fee to use pearson’s platform. But, wait, it gets better. The hyperlinks to pearson were actually directing to pearson’s in-house built course that they openly sell on their site at a lower rate than what my school tried to charge me and with a longer access period than I would have gotten through my school.

    UMGC, university of maryland global campus, essentially tried to outsource my education to a 3rd party and then asked me to front the cost in addition to their own fees. Yeah, no, i withdrew from the school. As much as I want my bachelors, its not worth it if i have to play these games.


  • I had Thursday/Friday off, making a nice 4 day weekend, and felt like i was starting to relax by Sunday. I actually baked cookies Sunday evening on impulse, something I havent done in years because i just havent the energy. The thought of working today stressed me out so much i woke up at 5am and couldnt fall back asleep, then had a small emotional breakdown while sitting at my desk staring at the number of tickets in my queue. We downsized this year and let everyone else in my position go, leaving only me to do the work of a team of 4…Im so tired…





  • Ill be honest, i agree that therapy may be needed, here.

    Ive tried this with them. It doesnt work.

    Im not a therapist, so take this with a grain of salt, but this is concerning to hear for me. It gives me the impression you might be closed off to your role in the conflict and the effort your spouse is putting in to understand your side (assuming there is effort to talk in any way). Talking together as a couple isnt a “Im trying”, its a “We’re trying.” “We” coming from the recognition that both sides are trying to understand the other even if resolution hasnt been found yet. Dont approach it as a “talk with them”, theyre not a dependent that needs a lecture, but rather as a “talk together” where both sides are actively heard and recognized regardless of if the other agrees. The goal is to understand the other, not necessarily to make your side heard. Once you both understand the other persons perspective, it becomes easier to find the disconnect or middle ground.

    Declaring “it doesnt work” isnt trying to understand the other, its shutting things down and wont solve anything anytime soon.



  • So…i hate to add to it…but my husband is mildly autistic and we’ve had this exact conflict with gift giving early in our marriage.

    He sees the act of gift giving very logically and practically, which is perfectly fine, but i didnt really understand this early on in our relationship. We eventually sat down, talked about how we each felt, and it clicked that we had a disconnect on the social/emotional layer of gift giving. I saw and felt that gift giving was more of an act of showing the other person they crossed your mind; a display of emotion. On the other hand, my husband saw and felt gift giving was more about making sure the item is exactly what the other person wants, including if that item is “nothing”; logical, literal, and practical.

    Sit down together and talk. Use “I” statements, keep calm voices, and dont interrupt. The goal is to express how you feel, listen to how they feel, and work together to help each other understand both perspectives.



  • So I was 5 when WoW released and it was my first mmorpg followed by EverQuest. I couldnt type, my mom had to do it for me and when she did the other party members were always surprised because i apparently played really well.

    Played until my character level was nearly maxed out, but my dad deleted the character to make room for another god damn character for him to max out. My interest sort of died and never picked it back up again, though ive thought about it.

    Its what first got me on the computer in the first place and sparked that initial IT career interest.