washing machines, parking, central heating/AC, pools, gardens, outdoor grills, wet and dry bars, basements, rumpace rooms, home theaters.

Aw hell naw. Tell me you’ve never been poor enough to have to use a shared washing machine or even a laundromat without telling me you never had to. Those things are absolutely disgusting.

I used to believe in dense housing in cities until I had two sets of psycho upstairs neighbours and no thanks, I want to be as far away from another human being as reasonably feasible at all times, nevermind not share a fucking pool with one.

So they just need to build a post office closer to you

I wish it was illegal but only for you so I don’t have to read nonsense like this again.

This really summarises the Republican agenda:

Attorney General Ken Paxton of Texas sued a Dallas pediatrician accusing her of providing treatment to minors

I don’t question that Facebook et al optimize for retention and engagement. I don’t question they’re also successful, I know all these things.

What I don’t understand is why?

Dr.Pepper was also very successful in getting me hooked as a teenager with his much less sophisticated tactics of sugar and soapy cherry-flavoured delights, however I stopped that, it wasn’t that hard compared to other basic day to day things in life like having to get up for work or brushing my teeth, compared to finding a job there’s basically no comparison.

Flash forward to 2018, I had every corporate product a techie would have, now I have almost nothing trendy at all. So I wonder why when I say I’m leaving a platform because of its shady practices e.g. advertising or algorithms I just go ahead and do, but others cannot simply do so. I don’t use corpo/algo social media, I’ve unsubscribed from almost all the streaming services, on the internet I block all ads, on websites I don’t know I block JavaScript altogether, I bypass paywalls, I block known trackers, I don’t pay for media and torrent everything.

The question is why?

How can I take my seemingly unusual ability to just let go despite being exposed to the same algorithms etc and give it to others?

the same as testable, definable, repeatable science.

Yet you ignore that I’ve demonstrated it actually is not.

we don’t live in the same reality, which makes a convo impossible.

Yeah, in my and everyone else’s reality I linked evidence above, I suppose you ignored it because it would shatter your delusion that lets you treat scientific findings as gospel. Hope you get some help with that, you sound quite upset about it all.

I wasn’t going to entertain your comment with a response but you sure baited me good with that last one.

You don’t believe in science.

Yeah you’re right, I don’t “believe in science”, because I’m not a religious dipshit who swapped one worship for another, I believe that the scientific method is the best we have for determining truth, but it is not set in stone, and it is a method - not a bible of things that definitely exist, only what can be demonstrated, which tends to change. There is no god, prophet, or a holy book in research.

is literally the scientific study of the mind and behavior.

At present, the evidence seems to demonstrate a vast number of foundational papers of the entire field of psychology are blatantly unreproducible to any satisfactory standard where their results could be taken as assumptions for further research.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Replication_crisis

I’m not an expert by any means, this is not my field of research, nor am I going to take the time to cite primary sources because frankly I don’t care that much about this subject matter for a Lemmy comment, but you need to re-examine your relationship with the scientific method, because it will not give you the religious comfort of “belief” that you imply you seek.

That’s right where addiction lands…

No, it does not, because addiction defined by it’s purely physical, observable effects is a real and definite thing, not only do we have empirical evidence of specific effects but a theory with predictive power as to the mechanics of specific chemical imbalances in the body created by specific substances.

Addiction as defined by the field of psychology is as broad as any hack-fraud wants it to be because the whole field has extremely dodgy foundations that allow for ever-broader definitions that no longer make sense and much worse yet - they harm people who are actually suffering if not also the people who seek answers from it such as yourself.

It’s no different than teenagers cosplaying disability or neurodivergence for attention.

Have some fucking shame.

There is nothing wrong with therapy. There is nothing wrong with feng-shui either. It’s not exactly scientific, but that’s okay, as long as it doesn’t harm anyone. You want to roleplay an addict? Go for it.

But don’t claim your experiences are anything like actual addiction.

Flying in the face of medical science

Of course I’m flying in the face of medical science. And if you swap “addiction” as defined by “psychology” for “hysteria” or “Social Darwinism” or any other idea proven false, I would do so as well.

A world without commercial artists would not be too different to me, because art is something everyone should do for themselves and their community.

All it’s led to is commercialisation and enshittification, turning everyone into drooling consumers who don’t even have the willpower to stop scrolling the most mind-numbing of content feeds ever devised.

I don’t want artists to starve, even the most shallow, talentless fail-upwards hack deserves a living wage and the material safety that a society defined by it’s excess could easily provide.

But the reason you don’t like people even just aimlessly messing around with AI art is because it demonstrates that you could do something with your life if you gave a shit, and how many have decided to at least try, now that it doesn’t take time they don’t have to put their ideas into some form, crappy as it may be, instead of only consooming treats and glorifying others in an endless cycle of celebrity worship, while it all just goes over your head.

It’s as shallow a reason as there can be, and I don’t give a rat’s ass what anyone thinks, I’m an anarchist, I will stand by that anything that erodes the power of corporations and their awful, soulless world, especially of such an absurd notion as intellectual property claimed on the infrastructure of the commons - as this does - is the right thing to do.

And spiritually, emotionally, in my heart of hearts - of-fucking-course actual working class people in their dreary cities hours and hours on end in traffic or the subway getting home to hungry children and being able to partake in art is a fucking good thing, not just us (me, idk about you) post-modern aristocrats chatting on Lemmy at 1AM.

Yes. It’s like gatekeeping the term cancer because I think people who don’t have cancer shouldn’t claim they have cancer because they sorta maybe feel like they do. They have problems, to be sure, but not that problem.

I had “”““addictions””“” aplenty to all sorts of things and negative habits of all kinds, it is simply an entirely different thing and should not be labeled as addiction because it is just not the same thing, and words have meanings outside of the psychology world.

Psychology

Most of the psychology world has nothing to do with addiction (a societal and physical problem) and is a pseudo-scientific scam invented by the medical complex operating under the premise of capitalist realism and that if you just deluded yourself into believing things are okay, they will be okay, but they are not, and in reality most unhappiness is due to poor material circumstances.

You mistake jest for hate, I pity you, boring man. I have no more to give you but my pity. Cheer up, boring man.

I think you are being naive. The LofN failed, the UN is now failing too.

None of them really can do much other than issue recommendations, which are then used for political plays for optics on the international stage. They by definition cannot solve problems. That said some related incentives have succeeded, such as the WHO. The idea of a United earth authority is not unappealing, but it needs to have teeth, and that’s not easy to achieve, because geopolitical power today stems from cultivating economic dependence and nuclear stockpiles, without both, the any United earth is out of the question.

However, I think something like the European Federation is in theory, more feasible, these countries are not only dependant on each other, but they are culturally adjacent, an easier sell. However even that is extremely difficult, potentially impossible, in a world where national idea won over the solidarity idea. EU is failing too.

I’ve been addicted to multiple drugs multiple times, including multiple at once.

The reason it was difficult to stop was because I physically could not function without them due to a chemical imbalance created by their consumption. I took them to cope with being fired, and potentially deported back to a transphobic country from a job I couldn’t stand, yet had to stay in for a year on barely living wage, and as harm reduction for the bottles of alcohol I used to down every day.

I think I got a pretty good idea actually.

If you want to stop, then figure out how to stop, then do that, and then you stop. That’s all there is to it really.

The truth is if you’re struggling with the first, it’s because you have no reason to stop, or the reason you have isn’t good enough. At that point you won’t be able to start or stop anything, no matter whether it’s a soft habit like picking your nose or being psychologically addicted to any other sort of dopamine.

With the second, that’s the physical addiction part, and it can get pretty complicated.

The reason I stopped was because I had to stop to not die and I wanted to live to finish transitioning, because I hated gender dysphoria and wanted to live to see the disorder perish in a very personal and petty way for how much of my childhood it fucked up. I now have.

The hardest part about the second aspect - the logistics of quitting after finding a reason to do so wasn’t the psychobabble unscientific “muh willpower” christian work ethic capitalist bootstrap mumbo jumbo, it was finding decent information on how to taper to minimize the severity of withdrawals and seizures and the fact I had to continue to resort to illegal uncontrolled means of acquiring medication for managing my taper to avoid seizures, collapsing and smashing my skull open to amusement of fellow man condemned to the morning commute.

Similarly with amphetamine I still had to go to work, which unfortunately at the time required me to be awake, yet no medical professional will tell you what will work - pounding monsters and vaping like it’s the goddamn industrial revolution.

Polluting the term addiction - the struggle of those who’s chemical imbalance due to substance abuse has their very body turn against them in cruel and unusual ways with the experience of someone who spends too much on avocado toast is watering down and cheapening the seriousness of the problem.

It was difficult finding information on how to unclench my jaw at night, whether I’m going too fast or too slow and looking for the best sources, knowing full well that the violence monopolists and their lapdog pharmabro complex filled with religious nutjobs (UK, so not trumpists) and nurses recommending bleach enemas would do everything they could to stop me if I so much as peeped about my struggles and the rest, brainwashed as they are would go off about self-helpyourself-to-my-pyramid-scheme guru book on amazon dot com or resort to quiet condemnation and pride that they made the right™️ decisions.

What helped me was DNMs, drug forums, suicide forums (they defended the argument for suicide badly and were therefore lame) and crypto enthusiasts.

Ultimately with addiction it comes down to two things:

1. Do you have a good reason to quit?
2. Do you know what you need to do and how to (logistically) do it?

If either of these are a no, you will fail. The first is hard to find in our fucked world so I don’t blame anyone, and it won’t get any easier until the world we live in is worth engaging in with more than the comfort of chilling out an amph sesh with some kpins and a dihydrocodeine or ten.

Aww, first day on the internet? I’m sorry, it is indeed most rude of me, how did I not consider my manners when countering misinformation that so strongly feels like racist propaganda! Hope you can accept this bottle of brandy my jolly governor, this is in most sincere apology!

Most conservatives believe state education isn’t anything more than brainwashing against conservative ideas.

They’re 100% correct. Education tends to make one confront reality and live in the real world, a very un-conservative concept.

Can be addictive psychologically, so can masturbation or anything else. The answer is to just stop. Whole different ballgame from actual physucal addiction.

Hateful? Of who? Telegram? Are you responding to the wrong comment? I was simply correcting the mistake (or spin) in the OP

This is insane. My career started three years ago. I’m Gen-Z. Never used YouTube for learning. We get it dude you like videos, most don’t and don’t learn that way. Videos are mostly for ads and grifting

Does it not belong to the people? The meaning of that saying is a shitty analogy for this. You’re entitled to the sweat of your brow, but not more from a society, and if you use free infrastructure of the commons to share your work, it belongs to the commons

Chad take