Hi! I’m Oaks! I’m a little of everything! Feel free to talk to me! I use all pronouns, including neos, except for she/her

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Joined 7 months ago
Cake day: November 25th, 2024
  • Oaks@rqd2.netOPtoMAP@rqd2.net•I am an AAM/AAP and maybe a MAP, but I have some questions
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    7 months ago

    Thanks again for responding!

    The community has definitely helped to make me feel less bad about things. There should be no shame in unusual attraction types. I am very happy to have found such a nice and open community!

    Thank you for talking about my book with me, it’s been really helpful!

    Thanks for talking to me in general! You seem cool! Feel free to send me a message or something if you want to

  • Oaks@rqd2.netOPtoMAP@rqd2.net•I am an AAM/AAP and maybe a MAP, but I have some questions
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    7 months ago

    Thank you so much for your response! I have no one in my real life who is this open-minded, so it’s very refreshing to talk to someone who understands. Sorry for the messy formatting, I’m on phone and new to the way this works.

    It’s good to know my trauma doesn’t change things. It feels like people don’t think trauma based (shifting in) identities aren’t considered valid, especially when it comes to being an AAM and such things.

    My partner in no way identifies as a MAP. He loves me despite my age, not because of it. It appears being called a MAP by my “friends” has caused him some psychological distress. It’s too bad humans don’t want to see truth when it doesn’t match their view of things. They missed out on a wonderful friendship/relationship with my partner and me. I won’t let anyone call my partner a MAP as an insult (MAP is NOT an insult on its own, to be clear. It’s the way it’s used that is insulting in this case) while it’s causing him distress. No friend of mine will cause harm to the love of my life. I will bite ankles for him if I have to /j

    I think I might be a MAP, as well as being an AAP. People of my chrono age aren’t attractive to me at all. Younger and older people are. Well, for as far as I feel attraction, as I am generally asexual for humans. I just hope no one will ever find out because I feel ashamed to even think about if I am or not. The fact I have to ask myself that question makes the shame kick in hard already. It feels even worse than when I found out I’m zoo, even though that’s arguably worse. If you or anyone else has any advice on how to deal with the shame, it would be most welcome.

    The AAM in the book is 16 and pretty mature for her age, though she does still enjoy childish things. The love interest isn’t necessarily a MAP, though it’s easy to see him as one. I wrote him to be extremely hesitant but I wasn’t sure if that’s usually the case. I’ve heard many stories about “predators” just jumping on the opportunity and I know that that’s not how it usually goes but I also don’t know how it actually usually goes. What would you do if a mature 16 year old throws themselves at you? I mean that as an honest question, to be clear.

    Thanks again for reading and responding!