I’ve heard of this one, but a little differently…

Don’t sweat the petty things, pet the sweaty things.

Or bacon.

My girlfriend in college, who was really my first real love. I move to a bigger city for a job, we get engaged and make plans for her to move to the city then… She just ghosts me.

She calls me at work out of the blue two years later. Turned out she met some guy with a nicer car than me… However, apparently having a nice car does not equate to being treated well… Which I did treat her well.

When she called me, I was in the middle of job burn out, almost no social life and just really not in the mood for bullshit. So no, we never got back together and I’m glad.

My first full time job job out in the wild was as a retail manager. I was expected to work 54 hours and during the Christmas season I basically was at the store if it was open, period. My record at that job was 80 hours in one week.

That was between the ages of 21 to 24. By the time I was 23 I was already completely burned out. Unable to enjoy life, making next to no money to boot. Seemed like every year there was some excuse why my bonus sucked, even though I ran the most profitable store, by percentage and dollars, in the entire region. It culminated in my regional manager forcing my district manager to demote me to another store because I didn’t run the sales gain numbers he thought I should… Even though my store was both profitable and I ran sales gains every month. They handed my clean, well sorted store to a god damn thief who they ended up pressing charges against within the next year. But hey, he ran big sales gain numbers. The regional manager was an absolute prick and he later got fired for stealing carpet…

The company is out of business now and good riddance.

40 hours is more than enough time to devote to making a paycheck. Honestly, 32 hours is enough too, especially since these employers expect you to commute. Concepts like “Rush Hour” only exist because of the insanity of making a buck.

I left retail to enter the IT industry, which can have some crazy hours too. I did my stint being on call and doing changes at 3am on Sunday mornings, working outages that lasted for days. Those days are behind me too. Today I work from home and my boss only cares if my work is done and that I’m available to answer emails.

I just migrated my Proxmox server to newish hardware, so its uptime now is only about two weeks.

In general the only time I restart it is when a new kernel comes down. So that could be uptime from a month to several months. I never restart it just because, it’s only when an update requires it.

Proxmox sits on an HP workstation with a Xeon processor and ECC memory, so it’s pretty reliable. Although it does not have redundant power supplies or the like.

All of my laptops and towers and Unifi router/ WAPs get restarted for updates and that’s it.

The longest uptime I personally have ever seen in my career as an IT professional was in a customer’s data center when my company took over their IT services. This was many many years ago. They had a Novell Netware server that had an uptime of over 10 years… In a PRODUCTION environment. The company’s representative stated that they were afraid of rebooting it because they didn’t think it would come back up. That became one of my company’s projects to replace it, which we did. I wasn’t a part of that specific activity, but a friend of mine was as he was Novell certified. Once everything was migrated, he attempted to reboot the machine just to see if it would…

The damn thing restarted like a champ. It came back up normally with no issues. Novell Netware could probably run on a rock as long as it had enough silica content.

There’s no such thing as sex good enough to deal with a partner that is incompatible with yourself.

You don’t spend all day, or even the bulk of your time having sex with them. The bulk of the time you’re having a relationship and that relationship takes work and at least some compatibility between your personalities and goals. Especially when bills, sickness, and kids come into the picture.

That is if we’re talking about a long term commitment.

Short term?

Yeah, sex can make up for a lot. I dated a girl in 2000 who was… By far the best at sex and she was down for damn near everything. My 30th birthday present from her is still something I daydream about today 25 years later. Unfortunately, she had a lot of issues and our relationship ended after 6 months. We hooked up about a year later for about a month and she was trying to make us work, but my feelings for her just did not develop so we broke up again. We’re actually still friends now 25 years later. She got over her issues and has been married to a man that has treated her very well for the past 15 years.

Mrs CanopyFlyer (56F) and I (55m) have been together 21 years and married for 20. We have two kids. She and I come from very different backgrounds. She’s an east coast born highly educated (MD/PhD) lady that was the top of her class at Yale. I’m a mid-west born barely educated redneck that she’s somehow tamed and taught to eat veggies and salad. Also her parents absolutely loathe me, even to this day. What made our relationship is our ability to sit and talk to each other. We have very similar views on politics, religion, and many other things. We’re also both tend toward being rational and open minded. We are an absolute unit when we have to come together to solve an issue and my god have we had our fair share of those.

I absolutely have her back and I know for a fact that she has mine, empirically many times over. That’s the basis for a long term relationship.

That’s awesome.

Just got the notification of the one I ordered for my youngest just shipped. It’s his big Christmas present this year.

We’ve had his Saturn V on the coffee table for the past couple of years. My wife and I plan on moving it and putting the Enterprise in its place.

Back in 2000 I had a close skydiving buddy. He was an excellent competitive pool player and taught me how to play and I even went on to win a few tournaments.

Our friendship came to an end when my girlfriend broke up with me and he was in bed with her the very next day.

Out of curiosity I tried looking up his name about a year ago. Turns out he was living with a woman down in Tampa, Fl. She had lost a child previously and was dealing with major psychological issues… He came home to find she had committed suicide… And he killed himself because of it. This all happened way back in 2013. So he’s been dead a long time.

One of mine is:

ITHertzWhenIP

Be it ever so humble, there is no place like 127.0.0.1.

You need to watch this video…

The sad thing is a lot of Wolf products in the home are used as show pieces. I know one person that has the 60" duel fuel range, which is a $15,000 piece of equipment (mine is the DF304, which is 30" wide) and she buys packaged dinners from Trader Joes almost exclusively. She’s been in her house for 10 years and the stove looks like it just came out of the show room. Absolutely insane, I’d love to have that much cooking area, unfortunately my kitchen isn’t that large.

Not me, I use the ever living f#$k out of that stove. That’s one of the reasons I bought it in the first place. I clapped out a Dacor in less than 5 years. Not that Dacor’s are all that good (avoid at all costs). Wolf products are designed to live 20 years in a commercial kitchen. Mine gets used a lot, but there’s no way I’m using as much as a commercial kitchen would.

You’ll have to pry my Wolf duel fuel range from my cold dead fingers…

With that said, if I had it to do over again I would definitely go with an induction stove. I have a high quality hood with a very strong fan and make sure it is running any time I use the cook top.

There is also a Mustard Museum.

I didn’t know about him teaching his daughter that… Must have missed that video or had already unsubscribed.

Definitely an immediately unsubscribe reason.

Bourbon Moth

Loved to watch his videos as he made woodworking accessible. He also does really good work.

Then one day he built an epoxy river table then promptly blew it up… Literally blew it up… Which spread all that epoxy all over the place in a forested area. I still watched, but next he did a video on rags catching fire and it was all obviously staged. That was it for me, I unsubscribed then told Youtube to never suggest his videos again.

AVE

Funny enough it was AVE that exposed Bourbon Moth on his BS regarding the towels combusting. However, shortly after that whole thing AVE just really went downhill. Instead of being informative and amusing, his videos just turned into the narcissist’s playbook for look at me! Haven’t watched one of his videos since. Which is a shame, because his earlier videos were really interesting.

It was “Mom” and “Dad”.

The one time I called my Mom by her first name was when we worked at a nursery/garden center together. A customer asked me a question and my Mom was close by working on something and I didn’t want to call her “Mom” in front of the customer.

It was one of the most awkward things I’ve ever done. My Mom ended up not caring, she understood.

My wife insisted that our kids go to daycare, even though for a period there I was home unemployed. The reason was she WANTED them to pick up Illnesses from other kids.

It was a PITA for a while, but they were rarely out of school in their elementary and middle school years.

They also were put outside and told to play in the dirt as much as possible.

Training that good dog as it were.

In addition to my comment above, not all immune related conditions are the result of the balancing I state above.

Ankalosing spondylitis, which is a rhuematalogical condition that attacks the spine is a bit different. One theory (in the scientific sense) is that the condition is caused by a mis-folded protein response caused by cellular stress. In this case specifically the HLA-B27 protein. You might not have heard of this disease, but it’s out there. The lead singer for Imagine Dragons, Dan Reynolds, suffers from the condition.

Edit: it’s the HLA-B27 protein, not HLS. That was a typo.

Full disclosure… My wife is a Rheumatologist and I’m just depriving some poor village of its idiot.

What I have picked up from her is that the immune system is very complicated and is made up of a series of balancing factors. So the short answer to your question is no that’s not how it works.

An immune system out of balance one way will give you a histamine response which results in you sneezing and having to take anti-histamines by the bucket full. Out of balance the other way and you now have cancer.

Same thing with eczema and psoriasis. Those two conditions are the opposites if the immune system is out of balance in a different way. Sorry, I do not understand it enough to say what specifically is out of balance in this case. Just that if you take a drug for eczema like Dupixent, it can cause you to develop psoriasis instead. Someone taking Dupixent has to be dosed just right to keep the immune system in balance. Or they have to take topical steroids.

Hopefully a trained immunologist or Rheumatologist will come along and explain it better. The above is just my understanding based on what I’ve gleaned from my wife who is a MD/PhD and a lot smarter than I am.