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I just made an amazing contact!!!
My uber driver is a semi retired senior project manager and he’s given me his number to catch up for coffee and he said he’ll keep an eye out for any account management roles!!!
HOLY FUCK!!!
That’s awesome and I hope that it pans out for you, just remember that despite the excitement you don’t know this person and to stay safe.
I love this little community. 💜
This is pretty much one of 3 websites I look at. It’s incredibly sweet here.
My favourite corner of the internet!
Ditto!
Good morning
Goooood morning. Such a lovely day. Mega shopping trip for household staples, and maybe a cheeky brunch on the way back planned.
I have to shop for cat toilet products. Yay.
I was wondering what you meant… then the cascade of neurons (both of them) firing in my brain arrived at the conclusion you’re picking up a cat bidet. So, there’s that.
My fluffy one could use a bidet…
Imagine.
litter and pee pads
Morning. I will get up now. Eggs. Coffee. Saturday quiz.
Trying round 2 for ze comet tonight. C’mon little guy you can doo ittt show us ya tail!
Come on, let me see you shake your tail feather…
Same. It’s a better night tonight. No clouds
I’m feeling a zonk coming on real strong right now…
Just coming out of a zonkm highly recommend
Mid zonk. Feels good.
Did the usual laundry/dishes thing, then went out with the Minipeelers and got some essential supplies. Also got nonessential supplies such as cheesecake and brownies from a local cafe, because cheesecake and brownies. They had a pistachio cruffin left and gave me for free🤤 Got home and had a beef sausage in a fresh roll with German mustard (it comes in a mini stein. I love that kind of thing). Going to watch something with the kids and do more laundry. After I eat the cruffin!
nonessential supplies such as cheesecake and brownies
Joy is an essential supply
It totally is!
Picture of cruffin?! Sounds so delicious, even better when you get it for free!
😔 cannot supply picture because cruffin was eaten with embarrassing speed… it looked almost exactly like this one and had pistachio cream inside degenerates into Homer Simpson gluttony noises
Never seen one of those before. Are they fluffy like a croissant or more muffin like on the inside?
They’re sort of flaky and croissanty on the outside and muffiny on the inside.
I really need to try this…
I'm tired boss
It’s up to me to fix my problems and I’m fucking tired of it.
If I want a close relationship with dad, apparently I have to initiate that. He certainly isn’t going to. But why should I? Who’s the fucking parent here?
I’ve already had to fucking parent my own damn mother, now I have to be the one to reach out to my dad!? Fucking fuck fuck! It fucking hurts when my partners parents call him, or his siblings, just to check in, because of course I’m fucking jealous.
Dad can just be dad to my fucking cousins as always, as it’s always fucking been. I give up. I give up on this. They’re all so damn successful and supportive of each other, what the actual fuck have I done wrong!?
I dream of just packing a backpack and fucking off by myself, throwing my phone away, deleting everything about me and starting elsewhere.
But I can’t… Of course I can’t. I have my partner to support and Mickey to love and feed.
I’m resentful.
so many hugs, I’m so sorry
Your partner and Mickey are your new found fam.
Thank you seagoon, I really appreciate this 😭💜
I know how you feel… My Dad has chosen to not be an active participant in my adult life. He’s met my son once in 11 years. He only lives 20 minutes away, in the same town as my mum (his ex wife). It’s taken alot for me to get over feeling like I’m not good enough for him. He has a great relationship with one of my brothers but not me and the other two. Many of my own therapy sessions have determined he is probably neuro diverse but that’s not an excuse. In the community people speak highly of him, but we haven’t had a conversation in 20 years. I’m a good person, who does good things and I’m worth his time and effort, but apparently I’m not. But I’ve got to be okay with that. We’ll survive this, and worse, because we know our worth, and we give love freely unlike our fathers.
I’m so sorry, it does hurt. A lot. In ways that are hard to describe with words.
You are good enough, you are so much more than enough! You are an amazing parent breaking the cycle! Your kid loves you, unconditionally and always. You are an amazing, kind, intelligent, beautiful human being!
The problem lies with your father, and while it is heavy to carry those feelings of unworthiness, it is he who threw it away. You haven’t done anything to deserve treatment like that, you are strong and awesome, and awe-inspiring 💜💜💜
Thank you Spud ❤️
Hugs ❤️
Melbourne thoughts.
I went to the Carlton Gardens yesterday evening to see if I could see the comet. There was a homeless person sleeping on a stone bench, they had a pillow and blankets, their belongings in a supermarket trolley. I wondered if I would be able to do anything if I were a member of local government.
This morning I give money to a crying beggar on Bourke st mall, He seemed ashamed and kept on apologising.
Walking through the gardens again on my way home from the cbd I see more homeless, this time sleeping under trees.
What could I do? As much as I would wish it if i had the power I wouldn’t be able to help instantaneously.
I reckon so many people in gov really do want to help, they have ideas but those ideas would get shot down.
My idea. As a temp stop gap until systems are in place use old warehouses as dorms , have them fitted out as well as possible, have many social services available.
But I can hear it now. There would be people who would object. They let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
old warehouses as dorms
This is why I think covid was a wasted opportunity. Building / converting quarantine quarters near support services and re-purpose them for homeless and disaster (flood / fire) victims. Wouldn’t win too many votes though.
That is a good idea.
but can you imagine the outrage at dorm quarantine conditions?
All it takes is one nutter going on a rampage, and the other inhabitants of a dorm would be adversely impacted. Also, keeping people in dorm conditions encourages theft and abuse - source : boarding school with upper middle/upper class kids (guess who the worst thieves were).
Yeah.
Given the instability of a lot of the homeless community - through mental health issues, substance issues, interpersonal stuff which gets so much worse when you have nothing except what you can keep safely with you - having a shared dorm setting has the potential to get really sketch really fast.
I live pretty much next door to a homeless hub in the CBD. The community garden which we so carefully planted and cared for turned into a homeless encampment because of overflow from the outreach centre…and while some of the regulars were okay if you were courteous with them, some were really, REALLY not. They trashed the place. Needles, broken glass, human waste, the lot. We had a couple of deaths in our garden, and more close calls on top of that.
None of us who had built the garden felt safe using it, and it’s only recently - having had the area cleared, fenced off so we could fix it without more rough sleepers immediately moving in, and a regular rotation of working bees now that the fence has come down - that we do.
I don’t know what the answer is, sadly.
Homelessness causes mental illness too. So having emergency dorms would save many people from that
Please, add in the Tragedy of the Commons. It’s relevant.
I’ve been homeless, in large part because of the fact that I was severely mentally ill. I was homeless for a full year.
The solution you’re proposing would get wildly scary within about three weeks
I’ve been homeless too, and drug addicted at the time. And at the time, I would have run a mile from anything even resembling an emergency dorm. You say homelessness causes mental illness? I’d put it the other way around for 90% of people.
Sorry if I seem a bit adversarial about this, but the topic is one that I care deeply about, and I also refuse to tell myself comforting lies and indulge in nice fantasies about the actual effects in the real world. Cos I’ve seen the real thing. It ain’t pretty. And no-one’s grateful until they’re already half way back into ‘normal’ life.
Using old warehouses as dorms - you’ve just re-invented the flop-house of Victorian times! Or possibly the penny hangs. There’s damn good reason why this solution is just plain not good enough.
With services. More like military barracks than a flop house.
and AS A STOP GAP until we have something better in place.
because a dorm is better than stone bench or under a tree
ffs, how does Scandinavia do it? Let’s do that.
Fully agree with the Scandinavia solution. However, stop gaps have a horrible tendency to become permanent and this is one that I find truly horrifying.
“Some people have challenges in keeping accommodation or aggressive behaviours and sadly just having services available isn’t enough.” - from Melba’s comment.
There isn’t any good solution though - come to think of it, this fair land we live in was colonised as a way to get rid of a crazy bad urban poor situation. So let’s send them to the other side of the world so they’re NOT on our doorstep and too bad for the indigenous population.
I think there’s a huge difference between people who are homeless due to things like bad luck, domestic violence and economic circumstances; and people who have severe mental health issues, violent antisocial behaviours, debilitating drug dependence. If there was a way of separating them, then temporary basic accomodation might work for the nonviolent group? With fast track supports to get them back into housing and independence. And the remainder need to go to more specialised facilities for long term care, because it might be that they will never be well enough to live independently. But I’m sure that would be very controversial. I wish we could actually try solutions based on objective outcomes rather than political vote getter policies.
Good point.
There should be medical care for the mentally ill.
This is a great idea however I would be too scared to stay there for all the reasons outlined.
I believe in the housing first model however at the same time there has to be really robust supports and plans in place around mental health and antisocial behaviour. And probably supervision.
Some people have challenges in keeping accommodation or aggressive behaviours and sadly just having services available isn’t enough.
A lot of the time what happens is either the aggressive people get kicked out (sometimes continuing to hang around and cause further problems) or more vulnerable people sleep rough to avoid the abusive ones. Or both. Which equals a high rate of returning to rough sleeping.
Australia seriously needs to fix the mental health system and housing
Goodnight everyone. I hope you all have a great night ❤️
So funny how people lie, in life and on the internet. It’s not even hard to pick up on, they always get something wrong, be it their age or the timeline of events, symptoms of a disease or mental illness, their work or experience, even what they do day-to-day. Even how they talk or type.
There are so many valid reasons to lie, I certainly do. I lie to my family about being okay because I fear trauma dumping, and I’d hate for them to blame themselves.
But to lie about illness or experience? I find that so weird. I have to imagine they feel lonely or unvalued, unworthy, unless there is something “special” or “unique” about them. A deep desire for validation that twists their initially good intentions into a gross facsimile of the reality.
I find it foul when “influencers” lie about having a mental illness I have. They always get something wrong about it, the details don’t make sense, the symptoms don’t match their behaviours. They dupe the naïve into giving them money and sympathy.
Tik Tok is the worst for that shit, Facebook, IG, Xhitter, reddit too, even lemmy. Any social media platform really. It’s a performance and it shows.
/Endrant
I agree. Using the emotions of innocent people to keep a bizarre fantasy alive is honestly sickening.
People are a strange bunch.
I had the same issues with LiveJournal 25 years ago.
Thank goodness someone said it. I was a kid/teen then but there were certain accounts that really rubbed me the wrong way, it was the nascent beginnings of the current culture linked to outrage/cancelling/extreme “sensitivity”/whatever you want to call it. So much narcissism and cult building around being “special”, duping vulnerable kids who feel misunderstood. Only later did I realise the lies.
can I just rant about the special/unique stuff. ( this makes me angry too )
behind that belief is a belief that everyday people are beneath them, that everyday people are inferior , not worthy
it’s not the same as recognising that individuals have personality and interests , these people who think in terms of status, in terms of superiority and inferiority, seem to lump all those they deem beneath them as the same.
I think we can all be different while still being equal in spirit.
And yet irl when people show real symptoms of real mental illness, mental injury or disorder often the public has no idea what they are looking at. ( I’m not talking about meth users )
I have to imagine they feel lonely or unvalued, unworthy, unless there is something “special” or “unique” about them.
so many conmen and conwomen out there
Cheers 🍻
Hopefully it stays up there. Cheers 🍻
Cheeeeeeers!!!
Cheers fluffy butt🍻
Love walking near my window freaking out thinking that the heater underneath it has accidentally been turned on, only for me to realise it’s the heat coming through my blinds 🥵
Washing done, toasted cheese and ham linch done, aircon on! Stovetop coffee done!
I’m all ready for a Saturday!
Very much enjoying the Saturday vibes myself too. What are you thinking for dinner?
I’m probably going to make stir fry noodles tonight with the massive amount of eggs and ham I have left here with hokkien noodles that I bought from aldi as a test.
I haven’t done stir fry in ages apart from yesterday when I got inspired.
How are you spending this Saturday afternoon and evening and are you doing a stir fry as well?
I’ve got the tennis on as Alex de Minaur is playing at 2pm.
Oh nice. You’ve reminded me I do need to go to the regular shops for eggs and carrots and soy milk, maybe when it’s cooled down. I’m surprised you don’t do stir fry often, is it because you’ve had the good stuff and can’t be satisfied with what you make at home? I love a good stir fry though sadly my current place has just a wimpy electric stove that doesn’t quite do the trick. Might do a bit tonight with the veggies I bought from the market. Though it’s more of a saute I guess.
I’ve been catching up on messages for a few hours, teed up a catch up tomorrow with someone I haven’t seen in over half a year, very excited for that. Made an iced chocolate and gonna enjoy that with more Severence binge watching today. Cook dinner and that’s it.
Today is just 100% chillax/me-time. I realised I haven’t had a solo day with zero obligations or expectations for nearly a month, what with all the traveling and working in between. I’ll do my chores tomorrow afternoon.
I sort of go through phases with food at times. I’ve been big into chicken schnitzel and veggies and gravy the last few weeks.
I was looking up a sauce recipe for hokkien noodles yesterday and just thought thought why not? And tossed everything in adhoc.
If I had planned it better I would have had some onions added to it and green onions.
I’d definitely go today for your stuff, tomorrow is going to be a lot hotter forecasted to be 33.
Is there a trick with stir fry? I didn’t have the heat on very high or anything. Just enough to cook the eggs and warm everything up without searing it.
This is what it looked like yesterday
Noodle stir fry.
Oh that’s awesome that you’re ducking out tomorrow to spend some time with a friend. I’m sure you’re going to have a great time out.
I think you need more iced chocolate tomorrow, is Severence any good? I’ve been binging movies nonstop for the last week, almost thought about watching Silo but I think I’ll do Shogun.
A zero obligation day needs to happen more often! I think you need to pencil in a few more of those when you go out to the market and then duck into a cafe to relax for a little.
That noodle stir fry looks gooood, love hokkien noodles!! Honestly the best stir fries are the ones you can make with whatever you have on hand. I love their flexibility. My understanding of stir fries is if you can get the wok really hot that imparts a smoky flavour that makes it more authentic. You need a sufficiently strong gas burner though, I’ve never lived in a place that had one close to it.
Severance is amazing but not for everyone, it can feel claustrophobic and unsettling because of the premise and they do a really good job with the cinematography to convey that awkward, discomforting sterile office setting.
I’ve got to stock up on onions too! Better go now despite it being rather warm outside. Onions, carrots, eggs, milk. It’s only 3 minutes in the sun before I get into the shopping centre, I can do this…
Scoffing a chocolate hot cross bun… Yummo.
Fanged down to Apollo Bay, again. Hot damn this weather has just been absolutely glorious.
I honestly think this is the best Summer season we have had in years.
another beautiful day without a single cloud in the sky
It’s warm out there.
