• Knoxvomica@lemmy.ca
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    2 months ago

    I remember someone writing that the bar for men to be “good men” is in hell. That always stuck with me.

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      2 months ago

      The bar to be a good partner is different from the bar to be a good person/man though.

      I dislike the conflation between the two because it implies being unable to have a partner implies being a bad person.

      Take a hypothetical man with severe mental impairments necessitating 24/7 care: Is it impossible for him to be a good man? Yes, that is a more extreme example but it just goes to show that there is a difference between the two. Being a good partner requires different skills than “just” being a good man.