Mature women is straightforward, older = more knowledge and capable.
Pretty much everything else you listed is about trust, so I’d say that trust is a very big thing you value in a partner, and due to humans very long time they spend dependant on parents and our community survival strategy, trust is very much a trait that is selected for.
People that are untrustworthy are unattractive, a lot of kinks primarily build on top of publicly shameful acts in private, which is effectively the ultimate trust fall exercise.
Feeling like you can trust a partner with such acts is very very positively reinforced genetically, so it becomes sexually attractive.
In short: because humans live together and make complex communities, trust is important, which means getting kinky is very sexy as it signals deep rooted trust.
Okay, fine, but what about non-hetero attraction and relationships? There’s an entire spectrum of human attraction and sexuality.
I know there was an old study about a genetic factor that would increase the likelihood of, in this case, a male being attracted to other males, but I am confused as to how a germline could propagate a heritable factor that would result in no offspring. I am not an expert.
Orgasm is an escape from pain. Humiliation is painful. If you jerk off to escape that pain, it enacts classical conditioning so that humiliation causes your brain to anticipate sex.
Ok smart guy, explain this: I like mature women, ass play, humiliation, and bondage too. Sometimes simultaneously! Take that, evolution.
Mature women is straightforward, older = more knowledge and capable.
Pretty much everything else you listed is about trust, so I’d say that trust is a very big thing you value in a partner, and due to humans very long time they spend dependant on parents and our community survival strategy, trust is very much a trait that is selected for.
People that are untrustworthy are unattractive, a lot of kinks primarily build on top of publicly shameful acts in private, which is effectively the ultimate trust fall exercise.
Feeling like you can trust a partner with such acts is very very positively reinforced genetically, so it becomes sexually attractive.
In short: because humans live together and make complex communities, trust is important, which means getting kinky is very sexy as it signals deep rooted trust.
Okay, fine, but what about non-hetero attraction and relationships? There’s an entire spectrum of human attraction and sexuality. I know there was an old study about a genetic factor that would increase the likelihood of, in this case, a male being attracted to other males, but I am confused as to how a germline could propagate a heritable factor that would result in no offspring. I am not an expert.
Orgasm is an escape from pain. Humiliation is painful. If you jerk off to escape that pain, it enacts classical conditioning so that humiliation causes your brain to anticipate sex.