Why would you need to know someone to judge their character quickly.
Wow, you’re so naive, if you aren’t a troll. You seriously think you can know a person from just a few moments of interaction? So many people are great at masking their true thoughts and intentions.
Ted Bundy was known to be charming and charismatic… but this is by no means limited to serial killers. All kinds of people put on a facade every single day. Oftentimes it’s not even malicious.
You don’t always know who a person truly is, even if you THINK you know them. Women will get into relationships with men who seem lovely at first, and then they turn abusive as soon as they get married because they believe they’ve had her tied down enough so she won’t leave. You hear from friends, family, neighbors of murderers and abusers say that they had no idea of that person’s dark behavior.
Say you have a jar full of candy that you’d like a piece of, but you know that there are a handful of pieces in the jar that will poison and kill you. There’s no way to know which is which. Would you not be wary, even though you know that most of them are probably fine?
You’re also forgetting about (or ignoring) the kinds of men that look away when their friends or family do/say things to women that aren’t ok.
Maybe those men aren’t openly misogynistic, and maybe they would never actively harm a woman themselves, but they’re also unsafe for us to be around when they do nothing to stop or object to their peers’ behavior. Those kinds of men are even more common than abusers. I certainly wouldn’t want to be with anyone like that, even if I knew with 100% certainty that they would never lay a hand on me.
You seriously think you can know a person from just a few moments of interaction?
You can tell enough to know whether they’re safe to be around.
Women will get into relationships with men who seem lovely at first, and then they turn abusive as soon as they get married because they believe they’ve had her tied down enough so she won’t leave.
Yes. As I said: Women have shit threat and personality radars. Many of those women probably were warned by men they knew. If they weren’t, then probably because people knew they wouldn’t listen.
So many people are great at masking their true thoughts and intentions.
Those look like they’re hiding something.
Seriously, this is a skill issue. Learn to relate to people. Get therapy if need be.
It doesn’t make you a poor judge of character to be lied to. Lying is easy. I hope for your sake you can continue to sit in the place of privilege, and not be deceived by someone you care about. That is an ignorance I wish on everyone.
It doesn’t make you a poor judge of character to be lied to. Lying is easy.
Oh no! It is impossible to tell if someone’s lying because it’s impossible to assess someone’s honesty because it’s impossible to emphasise with people!
That is an ignorance I wish on everyone.
Why would you be so cruel. In a healthy developmental process, you get lied to by your parents about the location of your nose so that you learn to not be too trusting. No, they didn’t actually steal it and yes, they did have tells.
Wow, you’re so naive, if you aren’t a troll. You seriously think you can know a person from just a few moments of interaction? So many people are great at masking their true thoughts and intentions.
Ted Bundy was known to be charming and charismatic… but this is by no means limited to serial killers. All kinds of people put on a facade every single day. Oftentimes it’s not even malicious.
You don’t always know who a person truly is, even if you THINK you know them. Women will get into relationships with men who seem lovely at first, and then they turn abusive as soon as they get married because they believe they’ve had her tied down enough so she won’t leave. You hear from friends, family, neighbors of murderers and abusers say that they had no idea of that person’s dark behavior.
Say you have a jar full of candy that you’d like a piece of, but you know that there are a handful of pieces in the jar that will poison and kill you. There’s no way to know which is which. Would you not be wary, even though you know that most of them are probably fine?
You’re also forgetting about (or ignoring) the kinds of men that look away when their friends or family do/say things to women that aren’t ok.
Maybe those men aren’t openly misogynistic, and maybe they would never actively harm a woman themselves, but they’re also unsafe for us to be around when they do nothing to stop or object to their peers’ behavior. Those kinds of men are even more common than abusers. I certainly wouldn’t want to be with anyone like that, even if I knew with 100% certainty that they would never lay a hand on me.
You can tell enough to know whether they’re safe to be around.
Yes. As I said: Women have shit threat and personality radars. Many of those women probably were warned by men they knew. If they weren’t, then probably because people knew they wouldn’t listen.
Those look like they’re hiding something.
Seriously, this is a skill issue. Learn to relate to people. Get therapy if need be.
Fuck me. Victim blaming 101 here.
Not to mention plain old being an idiot.
I mean, I knew my ex for a year before we married and he was fine until a couple years into our marriage. And I’m generally a good judge of character.
No you aren’t. You just admitted so yourself.
It doesn’t make you a poor judge of character to be lied to. Lying is easy. I hope for your sake you can continue to sit in the place of privilege, and not be deceived by someone you care about. That is an ignorance I wish on everyone.
Oh no! It is impossible to tell if someone’s lying because it’s impossible to assess someone’s honesty because it’s impossible to emphasise with people!
Why would you be so cruel. In a healthy developmental process, you get lied to by your parents about the location of your nose so that you learn to not be too trusting. No, they didn’t actually steal it and yes, they did have tells.
You’re very young, aren’t you.
Old enough to have a nose hair trimmer but thanks for the compliment.
lol. like I said… really fucking naive.