• Shelbyeileen@lemmy.world
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    • Over half of women in the USA have experienced sexual violence
    • 1/4 of women have been raped or had someone try to rape them
    • 1/3 of women have been sexually harassed in a public setting.
    • The leading cause of death of pregnant Americans is murder

    There’s a good reason why we’re cautious.

    https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/sexualviolence/fastfact.html

    https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/news/hsph-in-the-news/homicide-leading-cause-of-death-for-pregnant-women-in-u-s/

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      That 1/3 feels low tbh. Hell basically every woman I’ve talked about it with has been sexually assaulted in a public setting. Some more severe than others of course but being groped in a bar by someone is such a common experience for women that I can’t help but wonder if they used the word sexual harassment rather than described it. There’s that study that showed if you describe rape without using the word a lot more people are willing to admit to it than if you just use the word.

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      I understand that but there is a big difference between being cautious and being a paranoid man hater and that’s what I’ve been seeing a lot of lately. There are a lot of disgusting men in the world, I won’t deny that, but to assume all men are like that is asinine.

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        We aren’t assuming all men are like that, we’re assuming an unknown man is more likely to be like that than is worth the risk.

        And then there’s the fact that the majority of rape victims knew and trusted their rapist. Then we’re here knowing that when we’re raped or abused or whatever else we’re going to be treated like fools for trusting the person who hurt us.

        So in short, not all men, but far too many women

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          So if you assume an unknown man is likely to be violent towards you and it’s not worth the risk then how do you ever expect to meet new people that are men without automatically assuming they are a rapist? Also, you said that the majority of rape victims knew and trusted their rapists which means that you can’t even trust the people you know. So now you’re telling me you literally can’t trust anyone and you’re trying to tell me that you’re not paranoid. Please explain to me how that makes sense.