I’m not entirely sure what this post is for, I guess I’m just looking for some advice, maybe a little understanding?
The last few weeks I’ve been feeling incredibly overwhelmed, overworked and generally just burnt out.
For context I work a 50 hour week in a warehouse; it’s a pretty crap job that physically really takes it out of me. My weekends? Well my partner then goes to work for 2 days; which means I’m solo-parenting the five and two year old.
The eldest is full of sass, and the youngest is still yet to sleep through the night and appears to be dropping his one and only nap; meaning he’s super grumpy all the time.
Parenting is hard work at the best of time, but right now all I seem to do is work and then solo-parent. And it’s the solo part that I’m struggling with. There’s no time to share the load with Mum (and she’d say the same thing) , there’s no time to focus on housework whilst the other parent handles the kids, there’s not even any time to sit down as a family and enjoy an evening dinner.
Work. Parent. Work. Parent. It’s absolutely exhausting and there doesn’t appear to be any light at the end of the tunnel.
Update
Just wanted to say thank you for the kind messages. I vowed to have a good day yesterday and as much as the kids tried to stop that, I did end up having a pretty good time.
Parenting is hard, so I really value having a place to come talk about those issues in a safe space. Once again, thank you.
Mate, that sounds absolutely exhausting. You’re an absolute champion for keeping that up. These days I’d crumple at 75% of that!
If you’re in a fortunate enough situation where there’s a grandparent/uncle/auntie/close friend or whatever that may be available to help out, now might be a good time to ask for a little help if you can.
My brother was in a similar patch a few years back, and me and my dad went over quite a few times, cleaned the house, fixed a bunch of broken stuff, went food shopping, made them lunch and dinners for a few days to go in the freezer and kept an eye on the kids for a while so they could get on with some other stuff. Now the kids are a bit older and my dad’s retired, he goes over several times a month for the same thing.
My Dad is fantastic, but he’s also 65, working a 6 day week (also warehouse) so I’m very aware that as much as he wants to help, he’s no spring chicken anymore.
My Mum has like, 7 grandkids and a load of other things aside. We don’t see nearly enough of her, but again…she’s so busy.
My partner’s Mum and Dad? Basically useless.
In 6 years we’ve had one night away from the kids, and that was a few weeks ago when we told our mum she was having them (at our house) and we went literally five miles down the road and got a hotel.
I love them deeply, but I wish they gave as much support to us as they received when I was a 5 year old.
Ouch. I feel that. I guess as others have said, it’s a tough phase that’s not permanent, but ouch, that’s not going to make it feel any better right now. You genuinely have my sympathies.