One of the first things I noticed when we embarked on this great adventure was just how tailed to Mum everything seemed to be.

I get it, they’re likely to be the ones doing the majority of the caregiving, but still, as a hands-on dad I couldn’t help but feel a little…pushed out by things. Nothing massive for sure, but little things like how a good chunk of the online resources are written as if Mum is reading exclusively. Or how pretty much every baby group in my area is advertised as a Mum and Baby group. It’s far from the end of the world, but it can be pretty intimidating and unwelcoming to a new Dad.

  • Jho@feddit.ukEnglish
    5·
    9 months ago

    I cannot offer you any real advice since I do not have any children myself.

    But I just wanted to say I think it’s awesome that you and the other fathers here want to actively get involved in raising your children despite society’s efforts to discourage you from doing so.

    Unfortunately I don’t see this being an issue which will be resolved soon, challenging the status quo regarding gender roles has been an ongoing battle for decades. It feels like the world in general is desperate to accelerate backwards in terms of progression on this front too.

    But your continued active participation in childcare despite adversity, and your discussions here on Lemmy, will help challenge the status quo. Keep fighting the good fight.

    Your efforts benefit us all, including any parent regardless of gender, non-parents, and most of all your own children who will grow up closer to you than most of us are to our fathers.

    I wish you all the best and I hope you’re able to find support here and IRL.

    • Exocrinous@lemm.eeEnglish
      2·
      9 months ago

      Your efforts benefit us all, fathers, mothers, non-parents

      And nonbinary parents. Don’t ostracize the nonbinary parents

      • Jho@feddit.ukEnglish
        3·
        9 months ago

        I’m non-binary myself. Some non-binary folks are comfortable using gendered terms like “father” and “mother” for themselves.

        But I will edit the original comment to include a gender-neutral term for those who wouldn’t describe themselves as such. My intention was to say that this is something that benefits everyone but I am not communicating that, so thank you for highlighting that to me.