• Miss Brainfarts@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    9 months ago

    Plenty of factors, but a big one that steered me head on towards realization was getting increasingly annoyed by what people expect from me for being AMAB.

    From there it was only a matter of figuring out where this annoyance came from.

    Things like „I’m allowed to like XYZ as a man“ were a good step, but the as a man part is what continued to feel off, so that was one of the final pushes to get to the bottom of it all

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      9 months ago

      Wow thank you for sharing this. I am cis but was able to benefit from the great trans communities online when I wasn’t sure whether I am cis or not. Basically my frustration is with the social expectation of gender identity. But trans stories like yours helped me see that it is different - I like being a woman, but I hate what a woman is supposed to be. That “as a woman” part doesn’t feel off to me.

      • Miss Brainfarts@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        9 months ago

        Oh yeah, it’s important to separate these things.
        Who you are, how you feel, how you look like, what others expect from you based on any combination of those…

        These are all their own respective things to look at