I’m an introvert and I like going to work to do my job and go home. I don’t understand people who use a job as a substitute for friendship or marriage. It’s a means to an end.
The sooner I do my duties, the longer my downtime is going to be, and I love having my downtime.
Many of my colleagues see me and immediately start asking questions I don’t want to answer, but neither do I want to hurt their feelings, I mostly want to be left alone. In the past this has been deconstructed as arrogance and people with fragile egos feel insulted by my indifference to them and that I prefer to work than to talk to them.
The world is made by extroverts. I have observed that people are eager to help you if you give them attention. I don’t get it, but neither I’m not going to change how extroverts think or feel.
If I give them the attention they need for as long as they need it I’m going to end up with daily headaches and neither my job nor theirs is going to be done.
I want to appear approachable, but keeping the info I feed them to a minimum. How do I do that?
What do you talk about to your coworkers?
What do you say to stop conversation organically? (meaning they don’t get offended).
So do extroverts think, but introverts can definitely live their lives in a different way.
I just tell them that I have to go. It doesn’t have to be rude, that’s just the way life is. The intonation of your voice can change the perception of the message too
it should be so easy, but I’ve been bullied several times for being introverted, so I hope you understand my previous sentence.
Work is not high school. A few instances of you getting your phone and saying “Do you mind repeating that while I record you, so I can discuss with HR how you’re creating a hostile environment?” should at least curb some of those attempts at bullying.
Sorry to hear