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BOMBS@lemmy.world to Autism@lemmy.worldEnglish · 2 years ago

I just want someone to come to my house and do their own thing for the day. We don't even have to talk. I would be so happy and productive.

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I just want someone to come to my house and do their own thing for the day. We don't even have to talk. I would be so happy and productive.

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BOMBS@lemmy.world to Autism@lemmy.worldEnglish · 2 years ago
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  • FARTYSHARTBLAST@kbin.social
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    This is basically just fishing but with fewer steps.

    • BOMBS@lemmy.worldOP
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      I’ll take two!

    • McNasty@sh.itjust.works
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      My favorite part of fishing is the intense shut-the-fuck-up camaraderie.

      The occasional “Nice!”, or even a good grunty “MmHMM!” Is really all the talking you need on the creek.

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        • meyotch@slrpnk.net
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          I tell you what.

          • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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            Hwat*

          • FARTYSHARTBLAST@kbin.social
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            Mmmhmmm.

      • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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        deleted by creator

    • noughtnaut@lemmy.world
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      What a fantastic perspective! I love not going fishing.

      Your user name is fantastic, by the way. Built anything interesting recently? 🐬

      • Stinkywinks@lemmy.world
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        Lol “I love not going fishing”

      • FARTYSHARTBLAST@kbin.social
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        Depends on what you find interesting I suppose…

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          deleted by creator

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      Re: Username: I’m not sure I want to see your planet’s fjords.

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        You probably do not.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 🏆@yiffit.net
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    My best friend would just hang out and watch me play video games, and turn down playing himself when I would offer because I felt bad. He said he liked watching me because I was so much better than him and it was the only way he’d see parts of the games I liked playing.

    Sucks that he lives in another state. And is also married with children. Probably wouldn’t hang out much even if we lived closer.

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      married with children

      Oh he must have moved to Alabama

      • 𝒍𝒆𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒏@lemmy.one
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        Noughty. Get out 🤣

      • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 🏆@yiffit.net
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        That would be married to his children lol

    • BOMBS@lemmy.worldOP
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      it sounds like he was the bestest of friends 🥹

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      I have a friend like this who lived close and we didn’t hang out much, but that’s being a grown up. He recently moved, but the rare times we do get together are awesome.

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    This is actually common in many other cultures and I wish it was more normalized in general US culture.

    That being friendships where there is no need for a reason to hang out besides the company.

    I live in NYC and I have some select friends who also grew up culturally outside the US and we do this:

    If I asked them what they were up to, they’d say something like “going to the barbershop for a haircut”, “doing laundry at the laundromat”, or other errands.

    I would then ask to tag along and maybe say a thing or two from time to time, but for the most part I’m doing something parallel to them.

    Usually I’m reading a book, checking my phone, watching Netflix, working on my laptop etc.

    It’s great.

    There’s no need for an excuse to be with these friends.

    We just enjoy each other’s company.

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      That’s true based on my limited experiences. My people in Cuba don’t feel the need to talk all the time and tagging along for an errand is generally welcomed and appreciated.

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    Mia: Don’t you hate that?
    Vincent: What?
    Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to yak about bullshit in order to be comfortable?
    Vincent: I don’t know. That’s a good question.
    Mia: That’s when you know you’ve found somebody special. When you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence.

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      🤐+🤐=💕

      • Hofmaimaier@feddit.de
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        Why not, there are much worse results out there.

    • Favrion@lemmy.world
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      What is that from?

      • jago@lemmy.ca
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        Pulp Fiction

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          Oh.

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      Lance: Look, you brought her here, and that means that you’re giving her the shot. The day that I bring an OD-ing bitch over to your house, then I’ll give her the shot. Give her the shot.

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    I wish i had someone like that but finding a friend is a game of chance.

    • WtfEvenIsExistence3️@reddthat.com
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      I’m a neurotypical but also do not have friends 🥲

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        Tuff lyfe 🥲

    • BOMBS@lemmy.worldOP
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      me in abusive relationships: ret it ride!! 🃏

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      It is a game of chance in many ways. You can increase your chances by trying out friendships with more people, but I admit it is hard work.

      I’m terrible at online dating, it just doesn’t match my attachment style. So my strategy lately is just to widen my circle of non-romantic friends. My hope is the larger network will contain someone I can click with.

      Basically, I’m not friendly, I’m just horny.

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    This was the way it was for me when I was younger. We didn’t have to do anything. Just have someone around. We’d read comics, play games, do whatever. Just be around each other, doing anything or nothing. Sure, there’d be times we were very active together or go do something. But, it was very cool and fun to just have someone around and hang out for the company…

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    Fucking love Frog and Toad are Friends!

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    Being able to be around someone in comfortable silence is a thing to treasure.

  • SasquatchBanana@lemmy.world
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    A lot of autistic people enjoy parallel play. I know i enjoy the presence of other people while i read or play games.

    • BOMBS@lemmy.worldOP
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      You might enjoy reading this article then!

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    there should be a tinder for homeskillet chillers

  • NathanielThomas@lemmy.world
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    I had these books as a child. Very wholesome. Some of the morals of the story included lying to your friend:

    https://www.ccsdut.org/site/handlers/filedownload.ashx?moduleinstanceid=365&dataid=1536&FileName=frog-and-toad-are-friends.pdf

    • betterdeadthanreddit@lemmy.world
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      Frog and Toad Are Friends PDF by Arnold Lobel.

      Looks like the ampersands in your link were swapped out for the named entities.

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      I’m just saying, Toad lied first when he said he wasn’t home. At least Frog’s lie made everyone happy.

      Also, if you like this energy, Still Game is a delightful show currently on Netflix about two old Scottish men having similar adventures. Their accents are so thick I need subtitles, but I love it!

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        I love Still Game. It’s one of the best comedies ever.

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    I really agree with this. Until they start playing music. Then I get annoyed and wish I was fishing alone

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    Is this an autism thing?

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      A loneliness thing.

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