For people who have grown up under fundamentalist religion or abusive families, this definition of shame is very narrow. Often times, shame isn’t a vice that you hold onto for an excuse, it’s something that you were told you should feel for so long.

I don’t feel shame for being bisexual anymore or for thinking “filthy” and “sinful” thoughts but for years and years I did.

I know this is not related to the previous thread but I just wanted to point out that shame can sometimes be something placed on us, even if we don’t want to believe it.