That one has become accustomed to the abuse does not make it okay. That someone has been abused or in a bad situation does not exclude them from becoming abusers/abusive themselves (oft quite the contrary, it’s the seed of how they became so, maladapting to it).

I wonder how well that mother would do when measured against all of Elizabeth Shaw’s stuff about how to spot a narcissist.

And then there’s the perspective of control dramas… sounding like a bit of an Intimidator mother and Aloof father. Once connected to source, these can become a beneficent Leader and Thinker, their more positive counterpart expressions. Watch for Interogator and Poor-me cross challenges for energy. Better to find the flow.

[PS, “colors literally feel duller” is a strong sign of energy deficit from a lot of energy control dramas, parasiting of each other, unconsciously ~ at least as from the control dramas perspective. Stressors drain us and cause maladies, whether the stressors are emotional, chemical or physical, and the contrary is true too, that each area can be tended to more, to help adapt and compensate for whichever greater stressor load of the other type(s), at least, to some extent.].