Even aside from broad societal issues of fetishizing lesbians that this might trigger similarities to, being put on a pedestal is almost always alienating and self-consciousness inducing.

Just only bring it up when you’re talking about sex already, and treat people like people, and it’s fine I think. Worship and voyeurism aren’t that weird in the fetish landscape. It’s when you treat people like they aren’t entirely human outside consensual sex stuff that it’s a problem.

I do like lesbians. I don’t know what lesbian supremacy means. I don’t really think one way of loving is superior to another. I just prefer lesbians because that’s just how I like it. I would like to live in a lesbian paradise but I think in general there’s a lot to be done to improve the lot of all people.

On the other hand I do think that queer women feel pressure to hide their sexuality and interest. The fear that if they express their desires they would make others uncomfortable.

I think the point of lascivious lesbians is to be a place where lesbians can openly express their desire for other lesbians, the depths and throes of our passion. A place where we can reveal and revel in our shared love of queer intimacy.

I can’t give any advice on how to share this with dates, but I can provide reassurance: I have this little project in my head (and partly written down, there are many, many drafts) that’s about a matriarchy where heteroromanticism is forbidden and women are kind of the “royal class”. That makes lesbian relationships the highest regarded in that world and as a result of the high status of women, lesbians especially live in abundant luxury. A man touching a woman uninvited is punishable by death; touch by a woman is sacred.

i think it would be pretty cool for you to ask them to sign a pride flag though. be normal about it, but they’ll be flattered. it’s a cool project

I like you!