Hi, transmasc teen here. I have had a past with the social worker at my high school refusing to use the correct name and pronouns because I have to come out to my family if I do so. I don’t wanna have to come out to my family, because even the most supportive members are anti-Testosterone. I am pro-Testosterone. They also say I will always have boobs and a vagina even if I get the surgeries because that’s how I was born, and that I’m just a confused girl, when I know in my heart I am Anthony the sure and secure guy.

I haven’t had a session with her in a while, so I don’t know if she will use Anthony and he/him in private, but she won’t let other teachers know that’s what I would like to be called and calls me my birth name and uses she/her pronouns, but “feels bad”. IDK if this is some law or what. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt and say maybe she just can’t lose her job.

  • Fenderfreek@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    12 days ago

    It is almost certainly a legal issue, and not their choice, but I am surprised this would not have been explained to you if it is the case. There are states in the US, including the one I am in, where it is explicitly illegal for school staff to use any names or gender references other than the ones provided/approved by the parents in your record, even in private. It is entirely possible they have no choice here.