Failing romantically is painful and difficult. Especially when you’re younger and your emotions are still new and raw, it’s easy to fixated on a single person, to obsess and stew and cultivate insecurity and paranoia.
One of the big secrets to dating is not to do it alone. Throw parties, join clubs, mix with people your age. The apps are a trap. You’ll have far more luck dragging a friend or two with you to the gym and meeting people who work out at the same time. Or doing Rec League volleyball or basketball or running club or whatever. Or volunteering or going to church or literally leaving the house for any reason and hanging out with other people.
Why do you think so many 20-somethings spend every night out at The Club? It’s not for the smell.
But all of this is hard, and needs to be acknowledged as such. Groups of friends make it easier. That’s a big first step.
Failing romantically is painful and difficult. Especially when you’re younger and your emotions are still new and raw, it’s easy to fixated on a single person, to obsess and stew and cultivate insecurity and paranoia.
One of the big secrets to dating is not to do it alone. Throw parties, join clubs, mix with people your age. The apps are a trap. You’ll have far more luck dragging a friend or two with you to the gym and meeting people who work out at the same time. Or doing Rec League volleyball or basketball or running club or whatever. Or volunteering or going to church or literally leaving the house for any reason and hanging out with other people.
Why do you think so many 20-somethings spend every night out at The Club? It’s not for the smell.
But all of this is hard, and needs to be acknowledged as such. Groups of friends make it easier. That’s a big first step.