You need to reframe this in your head, if you think of yourself as wrong and damaged you’ll struggle to find peace within yourself.
you’re not damanged because you don’t align with cis-heteronormative and white-supremacist ideals, there’s nothing about you that is inherently wrong
As an aside, you’re body still changes a lot between 19 and your late 20s
it’s funny I struggle with a lot of this, but if I see someone remotely like me - tall, deeper voice, body hair -I will fawn over how amazing they are. It’s a lot of work to break these old patterns of self disrespect and self loathing
I am already 33 and well aware of how bodies change over time, thanks.
To imply that a wrong puberty isn’t inflicting huge damage is just sugarcoating deluxe. It causes lots of potentially problematic issues like beard or breasts that often have to be removed to not cause permanent dysphoria (i.e. make you sick). That is a kind of damage by definition. So can be body structure and voice, depending on the individual. Only the individual can tell what’s right and what’s wrong.
So, for sanity’s sake: do not try to define what is right or wrong (damaged) about someone else’s body. There are a lot of things that look different with a fresh perspective, but to claim that everyone (incl. me) can simply make what permanently pains them look better that way is the same shit people who don’t want us to get proper help say, just rainbow-coloured.
Dysphoria looks like shit from every perspective and doesn’t care about social norms.
You need to reframe this in your head, if you think of yourself as wrong and damaged you’ll struggle to find peace within yourself.
you’re not damanged because you don’t align with cis-heteronormative and white-supremacist ideals, there’s nothing about you that is inherently wrong
As an aside, you’re body still changes a lot between 19 and your late 20s
it’s funny I struggle with a lot of this, but if I see someone remotely like me - tall, deeper voice, body hair -I will fawn over how amazing they are. It’s a lot of work to break these old patterns of self disrespect and self loathing
be kind to yourself x
I am already 33 and well aware of how bodies change over time, thanks. To imply that a wrong puberty isn’t inflicting huge damage is just sugarcoating deluxe. It causes lots of potentially problematic issues like beard or breasts that often have to be removed to not cause permanent dysphoria (i.e. make you sick). That is a kind of damage by definition. So can be body structure and voice, depending on the individual. Only the individual can tell what’s right and what’s wrong.
So, for sanity’s sake: do not try to define what is right or wrong (damaged) about someone else’s body. There are a lot of things that look different with a fresh perspective, but to claim that everyone (incl. me) can simply make what permanently pains them look better that way is the same shit people who don’t want us to get proper help say, just rainbow-coloured. Dysphoria looks like shit from every perspective and doesn’t care about social norms.