People incl family just assume what you can and can’t do and what you need or don’t need for you when they could just ask

Oh believe me, I am well aware

“Do you know your triggers, and how do you usually deal with them?

Yeah, that’s not a question I will answer from my family, because then they will be the stage upon which tap dancing in stilletto heels commences. Tomorrow I am giving myself the gift of peace by not going home; and my personality disordered parent the gift of a different target.