You’re not entirely wrong, but that’s kinda the point. It’s more of a vibe than a hard and fast definition; one that seeks to reject the most toxic elements of the inverted male incel. It’s more about being a “loser” in the eyes of the rest of society than it is grievances about relationships and sex. While inceldom is centered on their relationship to women, this place is rarely about that. Being a weirdo is far more important than being a virgin.
Also, by virtue of this comm being fairly gay, we don’t need to worry as much about men. Unlike MGTOW who can’t escape their obsession with women, sapphic girls can actually go their own way.
Ok, I am glad that it just is kinda the point to claim or reclaim or distinctly have your own understanding/usage of the term, or however you would phrase that.
I fear I am too autistic to fully comprehend ‘the vibe’, but… thats’s ok, lol.
That’s the part I think I get, being a hikki weirdo, lol.
But I am also a cis, generally masc-presenting, bi (trans inclusive) guy, so, there are elements at play that I don’t have direct lived experience with…
… though I have had a good deal of transwomen, gay, lesbian, bi friends and such, and spent a good deal of time in just generally queer spaces, both online and in meatspace.
Which I guess is just me overexplaining my weirdness.
You’re not entirely wrong, but that’s kinda the point. It’s more of a vibe than a hard and fast definition; one that seeks to reject the most toxic elements of the inverted male incel. It’s more about being a “loser” in the eyes of the rest of society than it is grievances about relationships and sex. While inceldom is centered on their relationship to women, this place is rarely about that. Being a weirdo is far more important than being a virgin.
Also, by virtue of this comm being fairly gay, we don’t need to worry as much about men. Unlike MGTOW who can’t escape their obsession with women, sapphic girls can actually go their own way.
Ok, I am glad that it just is kinda the point to claim or reclaim or distinctly have your own understanding/usage of the term, or however you would phrase that.
I fear I am too autistic to fully comprehend ‘the vibe’, but… thats’s ok, lol.
That’s the part I think I get, being a hikki weirdo, lol.
But I am also a cis, generally masc-presenting, bi (trans inclusive) guy, so, there are elements at play that I don’t have direct lived experience with…
… though I have had a good deal of transwomen, gay, lesbian, bi friends and such, and spent a good deal of time in just generally queer spaces, both online and in meatspace.
Which I guess is just me overexplaining my weirdness.
derp.