I think we have a right to be judged fairly and not because of our gender or sex. But that’s a semantic point and I don’t want to quibble.

I do want to push back on excusing from women their responsibility for the society we live in, however. (Or just underline an implied point we may both share.)

Nearly every man I know values the opinions of women at least as much as those of other men. When a boy sees his mom belittle his father for being insufficiently manly, he hears a lesson that sexism is bad. When a man tells a boy that the way to get a girlfriend is to be a sexist jerk the boy listens, not because he cares about the con artist, but because he’s desperate for a girl who cares about him.

Men have a lot of the big levers of power, and do bear a proportionate share of our own blame, but we shouldn’t excuse women who use the power they have in ways that make our society worse.

We’re all in this together, and all need to do what we can to make the world we pass to our children better than the one our parents passed on to us.