Too much eye contact can be threatening (predatory animals are really good at staring). There’s a fine line between eye contact with romantic/sexual overtones and aggressive/scary/creepy eye contact. If they’re avoiding your gaze then it might be the latter.
Exactly. They want someone with the force of character, however small, to maintain eye contact. It isn’t an inherently positive trait, it’s simply a trait.
On the other hand I’ve met several girls who said they find eye contact (while having a conversation, not just random eye meet cutes) creepy. Granted we were teenagers when having these discussions, wonder if they still feel the same way.
Agreed. I tend to look people in the eye when they’re talking but somehow cannot do the same when I’m talking. Especially if I’m talking off the top of my head.
Real answer: practice holding eye contact
stands in front of mirror, holding up my eye contacts lenses in their case, staring at them, not sure what purpose the mirror serves here…
I knew it was hopeless.
when i go on dates i’m shocked how many women can’t hold eye contact, and yet on their profile they say how much they like men who can.
it’s almost as if people project their inabilities/insecurities onto their potential partners…
Too much eye contact can be threatening (predatory animals are really good at staring). There’s a fine line between eye contact with romantic/sexual overtones and aggressive/scary/creepy eye contact. If they’re avoiding your gaze then it might be the latter.
To them, you can hold eye contact, so it’s working as they prefer.
Exactly. They want someone with the force of character, however small, to maintain eye contact. It isn’t an inherently positive trait, it’s simply a trait.
Right but the point being made is that some woman who want this, who say they want this… can’t do it themselves, can’t reciprocate it.
On the other hand I’ve met several girls who said they find eye contact (while having a conversation, not just random eye meet cutes) creepy. Granted we were teenagers when having these discussions, wonder if they still feel the same way.
they like eye contact from hot people, and find eye contact from ugly people creepy.
Agreed. I tend to look people in the eye when they’re talking but somehow cannot do the same when I’m talking. Especially if I’m talking off the top of my head.