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  • KT-TOT@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I think that’s more of a tell on your own insecurities if the notion makes you uncomfortable. You can’t tell if someone is gay, even if there are some trends/social queues.

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      But the trends and social queues are important for how people view you, and how people view you has a big impact on your life. e.g. imagine you were trying to flirt with people but everyone you talk to assumes that you’re not into their gender.

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        Just because you can guess doesn’t mean you can definitively tell.

        This thread has been great for reminding me that nobody on the fucking planet can read.

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          Right back atcha.

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      you should look up “gaydar”

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        I feel that was covered by saying “trends/social queues”

        “Gaydar” is just making a guess based on social queues. Maybe it’s an educated guess but it is a guess.

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          I completely agree with you.

          I hate to be this person, but I have to ask: did you mean “cues?” A queue is a line or an order.

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            Yes

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          no, that’s how someone straight would guess….
          gaydar is more of an intuition

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            Intuition - “quick and ready insight; the power of knowing things without conscious reasoning.”

            Iunno, I think that’s covered by “social cueues and tendencies”. Your intuition is still fueled by the things you perceive and isn’t magic, or necessarily accurate.

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              👍 sure

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                🧊 cool

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                  💩

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