Editing to delete all of this. I am getting real threats again, and I am not willing to have a complete mental collapse over fucking Lemmy for a 2nd time. Fuck this place. And especially fuck all of the transpose assholes bent on making my life hell. I am deleting my accounts permanently, but will leave the content up. Don’t worry, you won’t need to kill or doxx me, I intend to take care of the former myself.
I think the broader solution is approval-based instance federation. I know that’s a little anti-fed, but this type of attack has no other solution I can think of, and banning a username just means the attacker rotates those, (too).
There’s steps in between. Rate limiting unverified server federations, etc. No need to inhibit discovery for casual users