Hey, it’s a The Good Place meme in the wild!
+1
My kid really struggles with time perception. It does help him somewhat to know that time blindness is a thing, helps him not feel like such a screwup.
An electric keyboard with a built in metronome to play with helped me to cement a rhythm, then time in my head. Playing at 60bpm helps to cement what 1 second feels like. From there the foundation builds. 60 beats is a minute, most songs are 3 minutes, that’s 180 beats.
I still remind myself that it’s a thing and I’m not a screwup. I’m in my 30’s and have been diagnosed for decades. Patience and grace is the best thing we can do for ourselves and other ADHD brains.
Cheers to that. If you have any magic tricks to help a little one deal with emotional reactivity, though, I’m all ears. Little fella gets upset faster than a dog eats bacon.
I feel like I’m just gonna regurgitate one of my therapists, but there are two things I try to do.
In the moment I try to stay mindful and recognize I’m getting worked up, that way I can take a step back, take a break, and come back with a clearer perspective.
Journaling also helps to reflect on the situation that triggered it and the response I had in the moment. Obviously the journaling depends on their age, but I think it’s probably a good practice to start as soon as they are able.
Thanks yeah, building that level of self awareness in a (undiagnosed likely AuDHD why is getting an email back from the assessor so much work, argh) 7 year old is a matter of intense repetition. It feels like bad emotional habits are way easier for him to form than good ones are.
Maybe journalling would help too, but he still finds writing anything longer than a few words tiresome. I used to write down thoughts and feelings like mad as a youngster, it definitely helps.
Yeah, the repetitiveness required to create better habits is never easy, but the hope is that the tangible improvements are realized and help to promote further development.
I’m a little OCD on keeping track of the time, not sure why. One thing I enjoy is wearing a watch. I’ll look at it half a dozen times in a row to make sure I read it right, but I also enjoy wearing it because I think it looks neat and I like seeing it and watching it tick.
Maybe a cheapish watch that the kid likes, and would want to wear rather than needing to remember to wear it, could help? A little dose of “that’s neat” while also seeing the time.
He got one of those toy smart watches as a birthday gift, but timekeeping is not really the point of such devices. A cheap simple timepiece would be better, I think.
Yeah depending on age, it might call for a kickass spiderman watch
But at the same time, it’s the superpower. Prescience.
A myriad of possibilities. Actions. Their consequences. From your point forward. Every action you take. Sometime it happens exactly as you’ve seen it. Sometimes you’re able to see the different outcome for which you need to take a different actions. The fear. The anxiety.
What use is it to know the future, if you also have to take action in the moment?
The mantra comes into place, here. At this moment.
I must not fear.
Fear is the mind killer.
Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.
Instead I will face my fear.
I will permitt it to wash over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye and see along its path.
And there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
Damn. Thanks
Ohm, baby.
If you haven’t watched it, The Good Place is really great. I wish I could unsee it!
I really feel like you missed the part where once you unsaw it you would then then be able to see it again. And that this would be a happy thing. Definitely missing.
Recently finished another watch through. Agreed, it’s 10/10 TV
Just move past it. You’ll have to learn how to ignore the paranoia, and for dog’s sake, NEVER look at the demon in the corner…
NEVER look at the demon in the corner…
You mean Phil? He’s been helping me arrange the room
Wait there a demon in the room?
They’re the one in the mirror. 😉
The demon either goes, or gets acknowledged.
Always dance with the demon you know. That takes getting to know each other.
The euphoria-grief phase of the first (proper) dose of meds (if taken) also seems to be a near-universal.
Its salvia divinorum extract
