I mean, his strategy didn’t work - but what is disturbing is that there are women who have low self esteem or were raised to be submissive and “traditional”, and his behavior acts as a filter, so that only those women will date him …
Christian fundamentalist women are the most likely to be skeptical of therapy and to prefer pastoral guidance over therapy, unfortunately - also, I have my own doubts that therapy alone would be sufficient, but it’s still better than nothing
My partner had parents that used therapy as a boogie man to get her to behave or it was for people that had something wrong with them (and you don’t have something wrong with you, right?). That made it real hard to bring it up as something that might be of use. I don’t doubt many people have similar experiences that make them adverse to seeking therapy, which is too bad because those are going to be people that could benefit greatly from it.
That’s why I would always talk about religion and politics on the first date. It’s gonna come up, it’s most likely gonna introduce a deal breaker (Americans suck), so let’s check early.
“Who does that on the first date? You’re weird, Explodicle!” Yeah I know, weird dates only please.
The older I get the more absurd it sounds to me whenever anyone tells me “keep social/romantic life and politics separate!”
No. Politics relate to our fundamental values. In addition they relate to our control of the environment. There’s almost nothing better to talk about than politics
You dont build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like
“as a man”
speaking as a dude, you’re embarrassing us homie. cut it out or go eat a dick or something
I mean, his strategy didn’t work - but what is disturbing is that there are women who have low self esteem or were raised to be submissive and “traditional”, and his behavior acts as a filter, so that only those women will date him …
Therapy is a great idea for every brain owner
Christian fundamentalist women are the most likely to be skeptical of therapy and to prefer pastoral guidance over therapy, unfortunately - also, I have my own doubts that therapy alone would be sufficient, but it’s still better than nothing
My partner had parents that used therapy as a boogie man to get her to behave or it was for people that had something wrong with them (and you don’t have something wrong with you, right?). That made it real hard to bring it up as something that might be of use. I don’t doubt many people have similar experiences that make them adverse to seeking therapy, which is too bad because those are going to be people that could benefit greatly from it.
Super abusive, wow. Hope they’re ok, and if not hope you can be ok
That was me growing up- I got threatened with anger management therapy as young as 9yo. And now I’m a therapist lol
Okay but what about Christians and fascists, that sold theirs?
To be fair, maybe his strategy did work.
It expedited the whole process real fast.
That’s why I would always talk about religion and politics on the first date. It’s gonna come up, it’s most likely gonna introduce a deal breaker (Americans suck), so let’s check early.
“Who does that on the first date? You’re weird, Explodicle!” Yeah I know, weird dates only please.
Right? They’re going to experience the full force of your personality sooner or later. Why not discover any incompatibilities early?
The older I get the more absurd it sounds to me whenever anyone tells me “keep social/romantic life and politics separate!”
No. Politics relate to our fundamental values. In addition they relate to our control of the environment. There’s almost nothing better to talk about than politics
You dont build a relationship on the kind of pizza toppings you like
So in my early 20s I had this gf who I would go shoplifting with, and make food for unhoused people with.
Pizza toppings were a genuinely large part of that relationship.
Goals fr fr