Ok yeah, I’ve lived like that too and I can relate. Trust me when I say that I totally get that mental state.
The one flaw with it, though, that one has to break through eventually, is that it’s reactive. It’s always, ultimately, defined by others.
The escape clause I found was that one of the best ways to get back at the fuckers was to thrive. But to do that, I had to do what I wanted, not just react. But to get what I wanted, I first had to want something for myself, and then I realized I couldn’t get that if I held onto the idea that everything would be terrible forever. I had to have a gritty version of hope. I had to adapt to a positive mindset for my goals or else I’d be hampering myself.
So yeah, spite can get you to accomplish things, but it’s always a contrarian way of doing things, constantly teathered to showing someone up rather than actual freedom.
Ok yeah, I’ve lived like that too and I can relate. Trust me when I say that I totally get that mental state.
The one flaw with it, though, that one has to break through eventually, is that it’s reactive. It’s always, ultimately, defined by others.
The escape clause I found was that one of the best ways to get back at the fuckers was to thrive. But to do that, I had to do what I wanted, not just react. But to get what I wanted, I first had to want something for myself, and then I realized I couldn’t get that if I held onto the idea that everything would be terrible forever. I had to have a gritty version of hope. I had to adapt to a positive mindset for my goals or else I’d be hampering myself.
So yeah, spite can get you to accomplish things, but it’s always a contrarian way of doing things, constantly teathered to showing someone up rather than actual freedom.