Cross-posted from “my partner has been mentally unwell and i can’t be there for them.” by @[email protected] in [email protected]

i feel like they can’t expect me to do what they want in the relationship (spend more time with them and not friends and Super Mario/Nintendo games) but rather they should do what i want, which is just play with me and realize i can’t be there for them.

i wouldn’t call myself a Nintendo addict, but i do play for very long hours without even talking to my partner. yes, i’ve seen the other gaming post as a fedi lurker, but i also have a similar relationship. i don’t talk to them because i’m so absorbed in my game that i forget and don’t even think about them. i only think about them when i’m not playing a game, which is admittedly rarely, though i would never tell them this.

i can’t be there for them when they’re upset nor can i talk to them through their depression and anxiety because i’m busy on a game, but i really feel like they should give gaming a try. it’s a fun form of escapism and shooters and Super Mario really help.

  • FireRetardant@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 days ago

    Id argue in practice they aren’t on the same level. In theory being on the same level would be 6ish hours for each (games, partner, friends) then the rest for sleep in an average day. In practice games take 11+ hours a day so games are getting the majority of waking hours and could be considered the most important compared to the other 2 from a time commitment perspective.

      • FireRetardant@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        3 days ago

        If i put in 11 hours into games across a 2 day weekend, i end up paying for it the next week because I’ll be behind on chores or other projects that should have been done. Tbf i work a lot of overtime so many weekly chores get pushed to the weekend.