i feel like they can’t expect me to do what they want in the relationship (spend more time with them and not friends and Super Mario/Nintendo games) but rather they should do what i want, which is just play with me and realize i can’t be there for them.

i wouldn’t call myself a Nintendo addict, but i do play for very long hours without even talking to my partner. yes, i’ve seen the other gaming post as a fedi lurker, but i also have a similar relationship. i don’t talk to them because i’m so absorbed in my game that i forget and don’t even think about them. i only think about them when i’m not playing a game, which is admittedly rarely, though i would never tell them this.

i can’t be there for them when they’re upset nor can i talk to them through their depression and anxiety because i’m busy on a game, but i really feel like they should give gaming a try. it’s a fun form of escapism and shooters and Super Mario really help.

  • sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Yikes, dude. I don’t think you are well positioned to be in any relationship. Which is unfortunate because your partner sounds like they need a good support system. If you like your partner enough, fix your behavior. If you don’t, break up with them.

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        4 days ago

        That depends entirely on both of you and your relationship, and if you don’t know you should ask him (and be ready for a deep/long conversation).

        Everyone and every relationship is different.