the virtues by which you live by aren’t particularly reflective of being masculine or feminine, but good virtues that you are proud of nevertheless.
This sums up the last 10ish minutes from the video quite nicely and it’s something I strongly agree with.
I don’t want my next question to seem dismissive, in the past years I have changed how I talk to and about people, as well as surrounded myself by people who have very relaxed views on labels and categorization. I’ve become a bit out of touch as my mind tries to take in all the worlds events and changing personal experiences. I am asking because I would like some more perspective on something I am not really surrounded by much of anymore.
What purpose does it mean to you to state you are a man in your second paragraph? If I removed the first four words, everything that follows still makes complete sense to me and relates nicely with the first paragraph.
Personally when I talk about myself, I tend to refer to myself as a “person” in place of calling myself a “man.” When talking about men or women, I would call them “people” unless I want to get more specific for whatever reason. I’m choosing to use the broadest term possible that is broadly inclusive. If I call myself a man, to me there’s the unspoken hierarchy of men being above women which could very subtly affect the conversation. I am not higher than anyone, I am a person, just like everyone else that surrounds me.
By calling myself a person, I am hoping it’s a reflection that I am equal to everyone else and not above a specific group of people. This is simply how I am choosing to deal with the current state of masculinity around the world. It’s something that feels like it’s working for my needs and situation. It has also brought me a lot more peace with myself.
I also tend to believe that language is fluid and ever evolving. I feel less significance behind the definition of words because they don’t always stay the same. This has had the result of me looking to use broad, well known words over very specific words known by certain groups of people. This too has also affected how I currently think and feel about labels and categorization.
What purpose does it mean to you to state you are a man in your second paragraph?
In a thread discussing healthy/toxic masculinity, it’s relevant context, especially when we’re in a comment thread about someone saying “well, I just… am a guy”
This sums up the last 10ish minutes from the video quite nicely and it’s something I strongly agree with.
I don’t want my next question to seem dismissive, in the past years I have changed how I talk to and about people, as well as surrounded myself by people who have very relaxed views on labels and categorization. I’ve become a bit out of touch as my mind tries to take in all the worlds events and changing personal experiences. I am asking because I would like some more perspective on something I am not really surrounded by much of anymore.
What purpose does it mean to you to state you are a man in your second paragraph? If I removed the first four words, everything that follows still makes complete sense to me and relates nicely with the first paragraph.
Personally when I talk about myself, I tend to refer to myself as a “person” in place of calling myself a “man.” When talking about men or women, I would call them “people” unless I want to get more specific for whatever reason. I’m choosing to use the broadest term possible that is broadly inclusive. If I call myself a man, to me there’s the unspoken hierarchy of men being above women which could very subtly affect the conversation. I am not higher than anyone, I am a person, just like everyone else that surrounds me.
By calling myself a person, I am hoping it’s a reflection that I am equal to everyone else and not above a specific group of people. This is simply how I am choosing to deal with the current state of masculinity around the world. It’s something that feels like it’s working for my needs and situation. It has also brought me a lot more peace with myself.
I also tend to believe that language is fluid and ever evolving. I feel less significance behind the definition of words because they don’t always stay the same. This has had the result of me looking to use broad, well known words over very specific words known by certain groups of people. This too has also affected how I currently think and feel about labels and categorization.
In a thread discussing healthy/toxic masculinity, it’s relevant context, especially when we’re in a comment thread about someone saying “well, I just… am a guy”