I know Lemmy is aggressively anti-child for some reason
Is it? I’ve never had a conversation on the topic on here so I truly have no idea, but my general experience with the topic is that people who don’t have or want kids (and it’s so expensive that plenty of people who do want to have kids can’t because they can’t afford it) often have their opinion on the subject disregarded, and that that is the root of any hostility towards the parents guilty of the offense.
Basically, the “I don’t want kids.” “Oh, you will.” “No, I won’t.” “You say that now, but I know better, you will.” kind of conversations that end with the parent wondering why the person they were talking to was so angry.
On the flip side, while I might be somewhat dismissive of people who are 18 and think their opinions will never change, I tend to go with, “You might change your mind someday,” but am also pretty uninvested in whether some acquaintance or even good friend decides to make a choice that is going to have almost no direct impact on me. I have also been part of more than one conversation on Lemmy where peoplenhave used the term breeder, and I’ve never seen that used in a positive way.
I have also been part of more than one conversation on Lemmy where people have used the term breeder
Ew, that’s 110% some dehumanizing language there. Gross.
The big hostility I see isn’t from 18 year olds who don’t want kids, it’s from 30 year olds being told that they’re wrong and they will want kids. I’m with you in the “it doesn’t affect me so I don’t care whether someone wants kids or not” department, but some of the conversations that I’ve seen have given off the same vibes as when a former coworker told a young lesbian that we worked with that she “just hadn’t had the right dick inside her.” That shit ain’t okay and I totally get the hostile response people have.
Yeah, a lot of young people change their minds about what they want in life, some older people, too. I kind of hope my kids change their minds but, looking around, I totally get why people would be turned off with bringing more people into this mess. Either way, it’s their choice, and I will live with whichever one they make. The same applies for choice of partners.
Is it? I’ve never had a conversation on the topic on here so I truly have no idea, but my general experience with the topic is that people who don’t have or want kids (and it’s so expensive that plenty of people who do want to have kids can’t because they can’t afford it) often have their opinion on the subject disregarded, and that that is the root of any hostility towards the parents guilty of the offense.
Basically, the “I don’t want kids.” “Oh, you will.” “No, I won’t.” “You say that now, but I know better, you will.” kind of conversations that end with the parent wondering why the person they were talking to was so angry.
On the flip side, while I might be somewhat dismissive of people who are 18 and think their opinions will never change, I tend to go with, “You might change your mind someday,” but am also pretty uninvested in whether some acquaintance or even good friend decides to make a choice that is going to have almost no direct impact on me. I have also been part of more than one conversation on Lemmy where peoplenhave used the term breeder, and I’ve never seen that used in a positive way.
Ew, that’s 110% some dehumanizing language there. Gross.
The big hostility I see isn’t from 18 year olds who don’t want kids, it’s from 30 year olds being told that they’re wrong and they will want kids. I’m with you in the “it doesn’t affect me so I don’t care whether someone wants kids or not” department, but some of the conversations that I’ve seen have given off the same vibes as when a former coworker told a young lesbian that we worked with that she “just hadn’t had the right dick inside her.” That shit ain’t okay and I totally get the hostile response people have.
Yeah, a lot of young people change their minds about what they want in life, some older people, too. I kind of hope my kids change their minds but, looking around, I totally get why people would be turned off with bringing more people into this mess. Either way, it’s their choice, and I will live with whichever one they make. The same applies for choice of partners.