If you wanna go pick a fight. Keep the instance name out of your damn mouth. Fight your own battles.

  • SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
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    Anytime I hear someone call db0 sexist I open their account and see the insanity that they spout.

    I think Lemmy culture is MUCH better than reddit. And I mean MUUUUUCH. Just as part of who we are. And the society is doing a good Jon of upholding those ideals.

    And the fact that you made this comment should be proof of the cultural difference bw the two.

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      Better than reddit is a pretty low bar. I havent lived anywhere low enough to reach it without a shovel in years now.

      Lemmy does have a misogyny problem. Haven’t tracked per server.

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        I’m a man. So can’t conclusively comment on it.

        The sexism I’ve seen is so over the top, as the person talking about tankies here is. That it feels like obvious trolls or sarcasm.

        I’m sure its there. But i would not have said Lemmy has a sexism problem had someone asked me.

        But then again. No direct experience for me.

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          As an enby who’s played around with both masculine and feminine pronouns on the lemmyverse, there’s a more subtle strain as well. People assuming you don’t know things or explaining things to you excessively. Getting more DMs. And a kind of centering of cis men that still happens even in more feminist and trans-inclusive spaces within threads that cover certain topics.

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      Thank you, but I was on Reddit making similar comments. I get it, though. Being decentralised means if a community on one instance goes sour, people can recreate that community on another instance (or it’s already been made) and people can flock to the one they think is run better — or ultimately suits their needs. Problem is, a lot of people don’t really care about moderator abuses as long as it isn’t being done to them. Like when the Reddit admin accused an app developer of blackmail and the app developer came with the receipts (he recorded the phone call), a lot of people did back him, but after a few weeks they were still right where they were and people even started turning against the app developer. I’m not sure a federated community would do much better. I hope I’m wrong about that. Even with another federated community, everyone you know is already on the bad one and the good one doesn’t have enough of the good people. “Be the change you want to see in the world” and all that but it’s still a chicken/egg situation.