• greenskye@lemmy.zip
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    1 day ago

    There’s definitely this aspect, but at least for me with strict parents there’s also loads of examples of:

    ‘Huh, doing this particular chore every two weeks instead of every week doesn’t actually cause any real problems and isn’t a world ending disaster like my parents seemed to claim’

    Becoming an adult meant finding out just how much of my childhood was personal preference of my parents and not some sort of objectively correct way to live. Life has been a lot better now that I can do things the way I prefer.

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      20 hours ago

      Depends on the parents. Most of us swing out the other way and test out other ways of being. I don’t clean like my parents did when I was growing up, but getting used to it then means it’s now not a big deal when that is required. I’d like to clean more than I do, and one day I will. It’s not a big deal and I’d rather spend the time with my kids. One day they’ll help me clean regularly. I was given 5 chores a day (in addition to regular things you encounter across your day). It’ll depend on the amount of time to complete, but I’ll probably have my kids do 2-3 per day. Just part of preparing them to live on their own, while we get some help with the workload to maintain a home.