Saying I can’t make it is one thing, but saying “I would love to, but who will water my plants?” is something very different when you know the neighbor who has done that before is available and you’re like “Just ask the neighbor, he doesn’t mind at all”. Just as an example. The excuses provided are sometimes very flimsy, so that’s why I would prefer them just saying “Thanks, but I just wanna stay home with my cats and a coco.” or something along those lines.
In a way saying you would love to but actually hating it is just a straight up lie, so I would prefer the truth over some excuse we both know is bullshit.
What I said was meant as an example of people not meaning what they say, and the roundabout route people take to express a genuine “I can’t” versus a fake “I can’t”
Would be much simpler if people were straightforward but social interactions ate complicated, apparently.
“I can’t make it” = “I don’t want to come”
“I can’t make it, but I’m really interested, and please do let me know when you’re doing it again!” = “I can’t make it”
Saying I can’t make it is one thing, but saying “I would love to, but who will water my plants?” is something very different when you know the neighbor who has done that before is available and you’re like “Just ask the neighbor, he doesn’t mind at all”. Just as an example. The excuses provided are sometimes very flimsy, so that’s why I would prefer them just saying “Thanks, but I just wanna stay home with my cats and a coco.” or something along those lines.
In a way saying you would love to but actually hating it is just a straight up lie, so I would prefer the truth over some excuse we both know is bullshit.
I’m agreeing with you.
What I said was meant as an example of people not meaning what they say, and the roundabout route people take to express a genuine “I can’t” versus a fake “I can’t”
Would be much simpler if people were straightforward but social interactions ate complicated, apparently.