This is not something I see here on lemmygrad. In fact, lemmygrad does an excellent job of this and challenges ableist language I sometimes use.

However, this is the only place I know that is willing to stay tough on problematic language and terminology.

As I’m sure you know, the 90’s and 00’s was a time when the “F” slur was common. You heard or said “thats gay” 95 times a minute. The “R” slur was about as common.

Then, somewhat suddenly, this language began to die down. Over the years it became more and more rare to hear. I think this is because people wanted to be more respectful, or, at least that’s why I also decided to be more intentional about these matters.

But this is changing. The last few years I’ve seen people double down on the R slur. I am somewhat unsurprised, afterall, the R word was not rejected as aggressively as the F slur or the “thats gay” comment. I am convinced most people around me are closeted eugenicists emboldened by the extreme ableism baked into their emerging fascist identities.

But now I am seeing people defend how they use gay as an insult as well. I find this to be terrifying. I don’t understand how any conscientious person could shamelessly use such language.

For those of you that have decided its ok to use such language. Thank you. I am working overtime trying to find out who exactly will be comfortable killing disabled people and queer people. You make my life easier. I will trust my gut about you in these times and treat you as the enemy you are.

  • Orcinus@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
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    11 days ago

    I’ve seen people claim that they’re reclaiming the r-slur because they’re disabled. They remind me of that black white supremacist from the movie Django Unchained. He used the n-word in a racist context that’s totally different from how black people normally use it and identically to how racists use it.

    • CountryBreakfast@lemmygrad.mlOP
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      6 days ago

      I agree. I never want to hear it and more than anything I definitely don’t want to hear it as a joke. There is no safety with someone whose ontology can hold the meaning of that word.

      But likewise I resent those who would refrain from saying the r-word but would express and enforce ableism regardless. If I ever use that word it would be in private to make their ableism more clear and ironically shock such people out of their ableist stupor. But even this is just a discursive risk that I would never advocate for such a tactic in good conscience.