Goddamn this hurts so true. I wish it didn’t take me until my goddamn 40s to wrap my mind around how to manage this better.
yup. checks out
So true!
Me when anyone gives me a task when I ask for something to do.
One of if not the most common comorbidities with ADHD is Oppositional Defiant Disorder, so this tracks.
I only found out about ODD recently, and it explains so much. It should be talked about more.
I highly recommend watching Dr. Russell Barkley’s YouTube channel. He doesn’t update it much anymore, but there is a wealth of information there that really help me understand myself and my children.
ADD folks are communal creatures who need a group to do it together. ADD folks need the subtle peer pressure to both do something and not be told what to do. Plus ADD means excellent improv skills from years of “going with the flow” because we may have forgotten we said we were going to do this thing and don’t want to back out now and make people mad.
I thought I done asked you fellers nicely to stop posting these here dead accurate pics of me on this here innertube.
You been doxxed son
Giving a task that needs doing and telling me how to do the task is different.
I don’t need accountability to get things done, I just need things actually worth doing. But I guess I’m one of those AuADHD types.
Another symptom I can check off my ‘do I have ADHD’ list
Still haven’t bothered getting diagnosed tho, just funny to keep track of
There’s no point in getting the diagnosis unless it is a barrier to receiving treatment that you want. Pretty much anyone who seeks out the diagnosis gets it.
Your method is better, imo.
I know very little about the effects of the treatment on me in particular. From what I’ve gathered, it’s mainly working with a doctor to figure out better coping strategies and then pharmaceutical interventions if needed. If that is decided then you try to find the medication that makes your symptoms better with a manageable amount of side effects.
When I did seek out diagnosis, I went through several rounds of surveys and had a family member interviewed by the practitioner. On the day of the diagnosis, she was running really behind, apologized and tried to give me the time I needed. But her diagnosis was “I’m really on the border, but I do have mild depression”. She offered something for that and asked if I wanted that. In the midst of emotionally coping with my confusion, I’m not tasked with a major decision about if I want a pharmaceutical I know literally nothing about, generally hesitant to taking pharmaceuticals, and in need of guidance from someone who doesn’t have the time to give it.
I left with no Rx and a note in my chart that I don’t have ADHD. So I don’t know where you got the idea that anyone who sees out the diagnosis gets it come from, but I didn’t.
Relatedly, an old friend who has since been diagnosed with adhd and hanging with her has been medicine.
Sorry, I was being a bit hyperbolic, but this is my field of work and I have an ADHD Dx myself. The diagnostic criteria is such that the majority of adults who present to a clinician with complaints of inattention that is negatively impacting their life will receive the diagnosis these days (either from their GP, therapist, or psychiatrist).
My soapbox opinion is that the diagnosis, like many others, is more useful as a stepping stone to accessing treatment than it is as a conclusive source of truth about the person with the Dx in their chart. Being symptom-focused rather than worrying about having the label or not is more productive in my opinion.
I suspect I might have ADHD and that would explain many of my shortcomings in school, university, now school again, as well as in my private life. Wouldn’t a diagnosis help with choosing the right direction to tackle these problems from?
Like, if I know it’s ADHD, I know that it’s a brain-chemistry problem and if it’s not, it’s maybe just a generell attitude or overall motivation problem? I see your point about the focus not needing to be on the diagnosis but on treating the symptoms themselves, regardless of diagnosis, but wouldn’t treatment look different then?
The treatment would look different if it’s determined to be something else, for example: ADHD symptoms look very similar to what happens if you chronically get bad sleep, or if you’re too sedentary and your endurance is low, or if you are depressed/anxious and that is causing you to feel unmotivated or inattentive from the mental load, etc. But otherwise, if you are having “ADHD-like” symptoms, the same coping skills will likely help independently of the label.
I always encourage people to not put too much weight on a diagnosis to explain themselves, but rather as a more functional, strategic tool. As in, this isn’t a conclusive label that forever describes me, but rather the current strategy/approach that’s being used (sometimes for insurance or access purposes).
This is me and I hate it.
Feeling this one too hard
This makes me wonder if my husband might have adhd qualities.
It took him five years to sign up for driving lessons that he wanted to take, and the reason he gave for taking so long is that I apparently kept putting him off by asking him when was he going to sign up for driving lessons.
(Edit: I just had a quick skim read of the criteria and nope, he’s not ADHD, just lazy and contrarian)
So he has ADHD 😂
Yeah this is the one.
